I have been happily married for over 10 years and have 3 beautiful children. We live on a waterfront property and both have good, well paying jobs with a lot of flexibility. Now here's the problem. We both earn around 100k each and split most of the bills and household costs. But I only get $250 a week for "me" spending. My husband feels this is enough as it's only money for things I want to buy not petrol, food etc. But what he doesn't understand is that a manicure and pedicure could be around $140 and my hair costs around $120. This money is also for a new piece of jewelry I might like or a new dress. So it doesn't leave me much money to play with. Am I being unreasonable or should I push for more weekly money?
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Agree! Since when does having money make you a cunt? I only earn 70k but my husband earns 150. Some weeks I easily spend $250 on myself. Others I spend next to nothing. I think you need to decide together on an amount
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Then you should realise too that it can all be taken away in an instant. My mothers partner is a very well known highly paid contractor for the public service. He literally has people throwing jobs at him and has had for much of his adult life.. BUT earlier this year he was let off his contract due to the impending election and what ever else. And due to the election no one was hiring anywhere in Aus. It took him 7 months to get another contract. That's 7 months on no income. They nearly lost everything. This is a man who literally gets a new job the afternoon of been let go of a contract. He never thought it would happen to him, but it did. If you want to continue living this lifestyle prepare for the times when either you or hubby or even both of you are out of work. The money won't always be there and you don't want to struggle again when it's not. 13k is a lot the be throwing away on materialistic possessions. I get you want to spoil yourself because of your past but you're doing a lot of spoiling on yourself. What happens if your husband dies? How will you support your spending habits then? We're not saying not to spoil yourself, but be realistic. 250 a week is bloody a lot to waste.
And here we are.....you saw the response you got from this website (I don't necessarily agree with these opinions) and how people viewed your "problem", yet you chose to continue. Did you not question at that time the suitability of your question on this particular forum? Surely you could have predicted, as we all did, the emotional response you would receive and the fact that it was highly unlikely that you would be given any real or practical advice on your dilemma?
So seriously, what was your motive in all this?
My husband and I both have professional career, both work hard and both equally contribute. My husband has never given me an allowance and he wouldn't because we share money. I think its ridiculous to write into a parenting page like this where some families are struggling to even put food on their table, seriously I've seen a post from a mum who had to steal groceries to feed her children. If you don't think you're getting enough pocket money then maybe go and do a day with a charity working with the poor. Sort it out with hubby, there's obviously a reason why he's 'restricted' you to that amount.
That is my rent.
I think you should start looking at your money in a different light. Your obviously very well off, but it's gone to your head. Imagine if you gave 10bucks out to some homeless people, just ten of them. Just for one week. You'd give them dinner & they'd probably be able to buy a toothbrush too. Do you think maybe you'd have a sense of pride in that? Or are your nails more important? I earn a whopping 394$ per week, and I have 3 children (clearly I'm on Centrelink!) but we give 20$ out each week to homeless people, 4 people, 5$ each. It's my way of helping & instilling good values into my children, helping others who are struggling.
Maybe you could give a small donation to a youth centre? Helping them with resources for drug addict teens, abused children, or just the struggling children.
Yes it's your hard earned money but please try & feel a sense of gratitude with this & see you are able to leave a footprint in your society but helping. Once your dead people arnt going to remember what your hair or nails looked like, they will remember how you contributed to the world though.
250 a week just for you?
I don't even have 250 a week for food, bills & daycare.
If you don't mind me asking, what do you do for work? Now as for your question I would talk to your husband about the finances, how much is being paid in mortgages and other bills, how much allowance he gets and how much is being saved and how much is already saved and what youse are saving for and talk about rearranging the budget of you still want to after discussing it all to up both your allowances ?
Ur nothing but a ungreatful bitch get over ur self