My husband has become very taken with wearing ladies knickers, lacey ones in particular. I'm not into it at all, & have asked him to not wear them to bed, & if he is wearing them, frankly I'd rather not know, & not see it. Fair play to him for telling me, he was extremely put out by my requests though. Any thoughts on this, were my requests to him okay?
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If my husband asked me to stop wearing a certain type of underwear because it made him uncomfortable, he'd get a big fat đđ
I'll wear whatever I want that makes me feel good, my husband can wear whatever he wants that makes him feel good. I don't think anyone has the right to tell another person what they can/can't wear.
So in my opinion. I feel like your request was unfair.
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So are you saying if you husband was walking around in your Lace knickers that youâd be ok with it.
I think anyone has the right to speak up and say what they feel, when they are uncomfortable about something. Why sit and stay silent. That would give me the heevies, seeing that on my husband.
Nah sweets, what I'm saying is I don't have the right to control him.
I'm also not saying I wouldn't find it surprising but if it really made him happy, I'd get on board.
If I really couldn't get on board, then that's my issue and I need to do what I see fit but I don't get to force him to change to make myself feel better.
100% youâre wrong for telling him not to wear them around you. Imagine if he told you to stop wearing something because he didnât like it. He deserves better than you.
What an evil comment
I would kick
My husband out if he was wearing Lacey knickers. He wouldnât stand a chance with me. There is something off with that. Ever thought she deserves better than him, for not respecting her wishes. She isnât comfortable with it and why should she be, itâs disgusting. Iâd vomit if I saw my husband in lace. Come off it, if he wants to go do that shit,do it in private and out of her face to respect her wishes. God help if they have kids and they see that.how embarrassing for them.
Wow, shallow minded bitches in here.
Women wear âmensâ clothing all the time, why canât a man under his clothes wear lingerie?
I would be totally ok with my partner doing this, i know who he is, i know he is straight. He loves wearing Pink, itâs his favourite colour, doesnât make him gay.
Because women do it for comfort. Heâs doing it for a kink, and itâs ok to feel awkward around someone in your space living out their sexual kink.
If heâs doing it for comfort or colour preference, donât think thereâs an issue.
Call me what you like. You are entitled to your opinion as I am. I find it disgusting and certainly wouldnât like it at all.
Fuck off!
I wouldn't be ok with it. He's not wearing lacy women's underwear for comfort, he's cross dressing. If that's meeting a basic psychological need for him, that is ok.... But it's not something I'd want in my husband. I'm not sure asking him to stop will fix the problem even if he does what you want.
How is it cross dressing. Woman wear man's clothing and that's not cross dressing, so why is it with man? He likes pritty lacy nickers... So what.... Why is it her business, why would it be yours in the same situation. It's fabric, how is that a bad thing.
100 % there is a reason behind this. Psychologically and what he is hiding from.
I wear my husbands old jocks when I have my period because I'm not wrecking mine and they are comfy as fuck. It's not your right to tell someone else what to wear, my only concern would be where does his stuff go? Maybe he's trying to lower his fertility lol.
To be fair, lacey underwear IS really comfortable
Come on, just because he likes pretty things, doesn't mean he's into gay thing witch I feel your insinuating.
Let him wear his nickers, you don't have to look
Yer na if my partner wore them, I would think he was at least on that side of the fence. The only men that I know, who wear them are gay. My gay mates wear them and all in fun. If this was my partner wearing them, thatâs a diff story 𤎠what a turn off! Iâd never look at him the same again.
I'm sure you have not seen the underwear of most of the men you've ever met. You wouldn't even know unless they wanted you to.
Def havenât but if their wives have an issue with it then it should be respected.
TBH, I don't think I could see my male partner as a sexual turn-on anymore if I saw him in lacey knickers.
Like, your partner can be who he wants to be, and that's great for him, but I completely understand your reaction in not wanting to see it.
I think it would entirely change the way I think about him đ¤ˇââď¸
I don't care if someone else is a cross dresser or whatever sexual identity they choose; but I don't want it in my life partner.
And to all the haters, yes I did throw away my granny panties that my partner found unattractive.
Me too.. Iâd def boot mine out if he wore them. Yuk!
Would you be ok with your husband being grossed out by you wearinh lacey underwear? Would you be ok if your husband told you never to wear pants because gross, those are mens wear, not womens wear?
Yes totally, Iâd be grossed out myself đ
Nuh uh. If I was told my granny knickers were unattractive and to get rid of them he'd start finding them in his lunch box, glove box, beer fridge, heck super glued to the end of his aerial on the car as a flag to all granny panty wearers to stand proud đ¤Ł
Maybe he knows this and thinks he won't poke that bear.
That's just me though. I like to have fun. In my granny pants.
If my husband did this⌠Iâd be long gone. Itâs great you are so accepting of it and he should respect your wishes. For me that would creep me out. I donât what others say or do but for me, if my husband did that.. he be gone. Gross! Yes your requests are perfectly ok if you are comfortable.
That was meant to say I donât care what others say or do.
Troll
I could not sleep next to my husband wearing that. No way, never!
What if you chose to wear men's undies because it's just what you prefer and he said the same thing? Bit much, don't you think
The narrow mindedness and inequality in this thread is really sad to see đ
Itâs gross, i canât believe how many people are against this poor man wanting to feel comfy/cuteâŚwhatever he feels. Let the man wear his lacey knickers, i bet his arse looks great in them
You are missing the point. His wife isnât comfortable with it. He should respect that. I canât believe now many people are for it. Sorry but I donât want my man to look comfort and cut in any lace underwear. I donât find that cute or comfy. Itâs a turn off. I bet his ass doesnât look great in them.
I don't think the point is being missed at all!
If it were any other article of clothing, people would be firmly planted on her hubby's side but because we're talking about an item that bucks gender norms, he has to sacrifice his own autonomy out of respect for his wife?
Make that make sense...
I donât know my view on this topic lol but came to say I love the way one of you said I bet his butt looks great and the other one said I bet his butt doesnât look great....it really gave me a good laugh after a really hard and shit day. Love the girls on here â¤ď¸
Hahaha so true.. we both have diff views on this and no need to hate on each other. Just shows our diff personalities etc.. Life would be boring if we all agreed.
I wouldn't give a shit, as long as he's happy to drop them as quick as I do for nookie. I wouldn't want the scratchy lace side rubbing all up in my junk.
I don't find them particularly comfy so if he did good luck to him.
No I wouldn't think he was gay, or cross dressing (although I've seen him in a dress a few times now), I'd think he just happened to find lacy knickers appealing.
Good to see others arenât phased by their partner feeling good in something. Itâs not like he is walking around in public with his undies on the outside.
These people commenting such marrow minded nonsense is disturbing
Itâs good to see different opinions on this. I wouldnât be ok with it at all but thatâs me. If you could then thatâs ok too. Itâs just something I would never be comfortable with and this person has every right to ask him not to, if she isnât comfortable. If he doesnât listen then itâs upto her to do something about it if she canât handle living with that. Iâm not narrow minded at all. Just because we have different opinions and donât agree, doesnât make me narrow minded. Not everyone has to agree on things in life đ
Best reply!! My hubby some times wears a G string đ I LOVE IT cause it makes it easy for me to grab his butt for some fun times. I wear men's boxers because I like them.
Wtf thatâs weird
After all these comments , starting to think this is a troll post..
When women scream for the right to dress how they want without being objectified/slut shamed and then a man dares to wear something HE wants to wear and is just shamed for it, i too hope this is a troll.
Feminism calls for equality, not better treatment for one gender. This 100% goes against equality.
The original post may have been a shitpost intended to stir up some controversy but these responses are deadly serious, they're reflective of an attitude that's still very much alive and well!
I saw a Facebook article the other day about a toddler boy who likes to wear tutus/Elsa dresses etc: I don't even have words for how vile and hateful the comments were!
A gorgeous little boy who was too young to even understand the concept of gender and sexuality being called a little fag, fucked in the head, confused, psychologically damaged, naughty and there was even claims that he was getting abused.
We have a very, very long way to go before we reach a true place of equality and acceptance.
I don't think it's a troll post, going by the tone of most replies I'd say this is a legitimate question that has drawn the bigotry out in people that would never think to call themselves bigoted.
Clothes (under or outer) don't change the person you've known for 5, 10, 20, 30 years. As times change and bodily autonomy for EVERYONE becomes the norm, of course we're going to see people that have repressed their own preferences to "fit in" for a long period of time start to express that.
If these responses actually represented the percentage of women who believe that a scrap of lace over one's dick changes a loving partner and dad into a queer, or changes them so much that they couldn't possibly work through their own gender stereotype aversion, then we do have a long way to go.
Ok, I choose to wear my ex boyfriends boxers. My boyfriend doesnât have a say and shouldnât have a problem?
Itâs not as black and white, right (you) and wrong (others) as you want to make it seem.
Incorrect. You should buy your own men's boxers if that's what you want to wear. Why on earth should he be ok with you wearing HIS undies.
Keeping an exes undies and wearing them in front of a current partner is just insulting.
No, he wouldn't have a say what underwear you buy yourself, and in an ideal scenario he wouldn't have a problem because the underwear you wear don't define you.
My ex used to love to wear pantyhose. It was no big deal to me at all. We keep in contact and 15 years later he is still just a bloke he likes to wear pantyhose at home.
I think before jumping to he shouldnât wear them, you need to examine what makes you uncomfortable about it.
Itâs ok to be surprised by it. But is it as big a deal as you think it is? Do you think he is hiding more secrets from you, have you asked why he likes wearing them. Itâs part of a discussion. Donât just say no, try to understand.
If itâs just a total no for you full stop, then you probably need to break up. Personally I wouldnât stay with a guy who tried to police my underwear.
I honestly don't understand how clothing can be a turn off. How are people sexually attracted to clothing or underwear? It would be like a man demanding his gf only wear a gst ring because it turns him on and everything else turns him off. It is only people with fetishes who are truly attracted or not attracted to certain things. I don't give a crap what my husband is wearing if I'm in the mood, I'm in the mood.. I've never had a man care what I was or wasn't wearing either could be holey trackies with baggy Tshirt or fitted dress and the want is still the same. Some clothes and underwear flaunt your good bits so you might get more attention in certain things, but it's still your body that is the appeal not your clothes or underwear.
Are you kidding me?
Thereâs a whole industry that makes money off clothes turning people on.
Itâs called lingerie.
Plus normal clothes that are âsexyâ.
What do you wear on a first date to appeal to someone?
Have you watched movies?
See what the sexy character wears?
People are visual beings.
Just like people are turned on by scents too.
Itâs not just people with fetishes, we all have attractions and clothes or the package is a big one for many people.
Just as we can be turned on by clothing, we can also be turned off.
Itâs biological, sometimes not logical, but the thought of her man wearing lacy underwear is a big turn off.
Just because it doesnât turn you off, doesnât mean it canât turn her off.
I think it has to do with subconsciously seeing her husband as the manly protector, itâs literally wired in us and wearing womenâs clothing has changed her view of him.
Is it fair? No.
Just as men who come out as transgender and wish to stay married to their wives because theyâre the same âpersonâ but a lot of woman leave. They are just no longer sexually attracted.
Have you ever met the perfect guy âon paperâ but felt absolutely no attraction?
Itâs frustrating, itâs illogical but itâs just not there.
I feel for the op and her partner, not sure the solution.
I donât feel he should have to hide a part of himself, but I also think it would be incredibly hard to stay with someone youâre no longer sexually attracted to.
So are you saying that a man can walk into a lingerie store, see some nice underwear and get sexually aroused, even if it's just hanging on a rack with nobody wearing it? Fascinating. I like guys that wear jeans but I can't say I've ever been turned on by a pair of jeans in the washing basket. We are attracted to the body IN THE CLOTHES, not the clothes themselves.