Sorry if this is tmi
I have been with my partner for 17 years, we have 3 kids together 15,12 and 6
Intercourse for us most of the time is soooo rushed, not because we want it to be rushed but because we don’t want to get caught even if we are doing it late at night and the kids are in bed. It’s still pretty awesome, I mean we have always been very attracted to each other and it only grows stronger each and everyday. We probably do it maybe once a week cause we are so busy with everyday life and usually we have to book each other in it’s not as fun doing it this way but of course still feel bloody damn good once we get into it even if it’s rushed. Tonight..: OMG tonight blew my head clean off. See we haven’t been able to have sex spontaneously in a very long time cause we just really don’t want to get caught so it’s usually hidden in our wardrobe or locked bathroom (we are so worried our kids will catch us so we are overly cautious) but tonight the kids are sleeping over at their aunties and we did it like we used to, I didn’t realise how much o actually missed it. I have lost 10kgs since the start of this year so I have a lot more confidence then I did before and I will say if he wanted to try these old positions that we used to do all the time last year I would have died as I just didn’t like the way I looked back then, so it started off rubbing, kissing, then he went down there and at first I was uncomfortable thinking do I look good, do I feel nice etc, then I just thought you know what, just enjoy it, let him do what he wants and when I let go, my god did it feel so good, he put his hands under my bum lifted me up in so many ways, he was kissing my inner thighs, my legs etc and then going to the goods and I swear it was like an hour of foreplay and then the real business began, my body started to shake, I pushed away cause it felt so good but he pulled me back in and there was no escaping. My mind was blown, my whole body felt tingles in places I haven’t felt in a long time. He says he knows intuitively what he needs to do as he can spiritually feel me and I honestly believe him cause he knew when I was about to explode and he would take the action I needed and it was amazing, you know when you get so excited and you just want to bite someone? Well maybe that’s just me but I swear I could have jumped him in a good way, but he loves to take control and I just let him. I surrendered tonight, I forgot about my insecurities and I allowed my beautiful partner to have me. Ladies. Let your insecurities go and allow yourself to feel your partner, allow him to take control, to feel you all over your body. My experience that I always used to have with my partner when my 2 oldest boys were a lot younger happened tonight, and for so long it was just quick and rushed and I was so ashamed of how I looked etc so I was in the way of allowing myself to experience what we have both been missing for so long. We have a great relationship, of course I want to kill him sometimes and vice versa but 17 yrs we are still very Much in love and tonight it wasn’t sex it was love, I felt soooo loved, like he literally loved every part of my body, I have just been holding him back and he respected my insecurities but tonight I let him in and it was beyond sex it was sacred. So please, let go and just allow yourself to be free and allow your partner to love every inch of you. You won’t regret it. I absolutely love my man in every way, and in so many ways.
Let me know is your sex life after so many years only getting better?
Edit: reason for sharing is in the hopes this post helps someone to let go of the way they see themselves and just enjoy those special moments. Sex is very important in any relationship and so is all the other stuff. It shouldn’t be a taboo subject it’s very normal for us humans to experience the magic and love exchange. So I really hope this helps even 1 person let go and connect intimately like they once used to, I felt some details were important to share to give an idea of what I did that used to make me feel self conscious. To all the negative comments I wish you all nothing but peace and love 💓
Im 31 and my partner is 34
I just had to share.
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Yuck. Not into porn stories, why isn't sex sacred anymore without having to tell the world how good you got fucked. . I don't want to imagine his cock thrusting at your cunt. 🤮
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Using "cunt" in that context is pretty yuck too, just saying...
No one forced you to stop and read this 🤷♀️
I have no issue with the word cunt. But I’m sure some people do. And no one was forced to stop and read this? Lol so how is anyone meant to know what it says if they don’t stop and read it? What a strange thing to say. I never even finished reading it, what I read was enough to warrant my comment.
I have no issue with the word cunt. But I’m sure some people do. And no one was forced to stop and read this? Lol so how is anyone meant to know what it says if they don’t stop and read it? What a strange thing to say. I never even finished reading it, what I read was enough to warrant my comment.
Exactly, if it started to make you feel like a prude then you should have stopped reading it right. Also why would you choose or be a cunt to someone who didn’t hurt you? Who had good intentions? You need healing you seem like a angry person.
How did you read the posted comment above as an act of anger toward the OP? I think 'you need healing as you seem like an angry person' if that's how you took that comment. I embrace the word cunt. You don't have to. But I do. I use it in all contexts and it's my awesome Bogan fun loving nature. I make no apologies for being me. You are way too serious and aggrieved.
Poster here. Why is it yuck to imagine what is sooo natural? For not just me but for you too? I actually have a vagina and my partner a penis. The fact you used the word cunt makes me think you watch way too much porn and aren’t experiencing the real thing as you refer to porn lingo. In the real world of sex it’s much more rather sweet, gentle, maybe even a little bit rough, but it’s electric, warm, feel soo good and I love it when his BIG penis penetrates my Vagina cause I chose to allow my man to have me in that way, sex is a sacred thing and I don’t just let any COCK as you refer to go there hence why I have a Vagina not a cunt. You should start viewing your presious vagina the same way. You also seem very high strung, let your hair down and have some fun, live a little.
The fact you refer to a vagina as a cunt which is pretty foul words to use makes me question your character. Do you say to your husband “hey come and fuck my cunt”? If you use those words now I would love to be a fly on the wall in your room, as I think I would be in hysterics.
Yes I sure do call mine a cunt. I must admit it makes for pretty funny lovemaking ! We actually have a great time 🥰🤩 And I was waiting for the prude word to pop up on someones comment , I'm no prude , since I use the word cunt, I thought that would be obvious, you prude, Lol. Anyway I dont have to agree to the pornographic type way this poster has posted this as, and great for those that do like the detail it's written in , I just dont have to be one of you that does, and I'm freely stating that and have every right to say so. Each to their own, but that's my opinion on the matter.
Poster here: I can respect that . I really don’t think what I wrote was pornographic I think it was more R rated. I could go into more detail but I don’t want to kill someone. Your opinion is certainly valid and the way you responded I found constructive. You didn’t ’t put me down as a person at all so thank you for that.
This is far from a porn story 😂
Though I must admit I skipped all the details. I think it’s great that your sex life is getting better rather than declining, and it’s very true to try let go of negative body image.
I feel like you just wanted to share a private moment on a public forum. If you have a question, maybe take out all of the specifics and just ask the question.
Poster here: no question just wanted to share the love to those who may be suffering from their own insecurities that may be affecting their sex life maybe what I shared will help someone in some way. And no thank you, you do not tell me what I can write or post and how I should write or word it. I will do what I want and share what I want. 💕
Yes.
A lock on the bedroom door means not shagging in closets.
Poster here: but if my door is locked then they would wonder what we were doing and the thought of that being on their head actually scares me lol so we hide and it works for now.
TMI - not necessary.
Why? It’s sooo normal. I love it. And I love your comment. Love and be free, don’t hide from what comes so natural to us all.
Damn, people got their knickers in a twist this morning!
Good for you for feeling confident enough to share your experiences, who knows, maybe this will help someone out there!
So uneccessary
Poster here: oh maybe for you but for some this might be the boost they need to regain the connection with their partner so love is necessary 💕
You could achieve what you want without the details.
Poster here: I really hope this helps someone who is holding back because of the way they see themselves. To all the negative comments, I wish you all so much happiness
All power to you! Don’t worry about the negativity. Most of the post on this page are about their partners not wanting to touch them so this kind of post was always bound to touch a nerve. Enjoy your good dicking and congrats on losing 10kgs!
Thank you Beautiful person. Not that I’m trying to judge the negative comments but it does make me wonder if their husbands are free to be themselves especially if sex is so disgusting for them to hear. I’m a pretty open minded person but I do hope those that are judging can open their minds too and see that what I posted at the end of the day was beautiful, everyone who has a partner they love and make love to I think is magical and should be able to share with those they feel comfortable with. People shouldn’t shut down over such a beautiful thing. We all do it.
Poster here: I really hope this helps someone who is holding back because of the way they see themselves. To all the negative comments, I wish you all so much happiness
I don’t think these comments are negative. I think people just feel put off that you have described your sex in all it’s pornful glory and not everyone feels it necessary to read what you have descriptively done in the bedroom.
Poster here: why, why is it not necessary to share love, that’s all I did. Sex is love and I’m happy I shared. 💕
This could have been much more detailed then it actually was. And I'm glad it wasn't. But am very much happy for the poster. And I think it is important to let go and enjoy yourself as it's easy to do whilst living a busy life.... this could help some people. Everyone deserves amazing sex.
That's what I was thinking, I mean it's a little Mills and Boone worthy but why the hate?! This woman clearly had a great night, christ let her have it without telling her how gross and unnecessary she is...
I half bet the people here disgusted with this post are the same ones who inhaled 50 shades 😂😂
Poster here: OMG 50 shades of grey, I watched that with my partner then I dragged him down to the bedroom and I TOOK control that night haha. Those comments honestly don’t affect me at all, some confuse my as I really think a lot of people have deep seeded issues with sex in general which is something they would need to look into but at the end of the day why would I feel disgusting or allow these people’s comments who don’t even matter to me get me down. If anything me and my partner have a giggle haha. Thank you both for being kind. 💓
That’s so sad you’ve gone so long without good sex? How can you be so worried about children coming in that you must have rushed sex in a cupboard- doors and locks ?
As much as I love your meaning of the post I find the delivery a bit much. Most of us have amazing sex - regularly but would never discuss it like this .
Maybe work on your own self worth at home first and your sex life before pushing it onto others
Thst second part is a bit rude.
She's mentioned she's been working on herself this year. And your belittling comments could knock her down.
She isn't pushing her sex life on anyone. No one had to keep reading the whole post before they clicked out of the page and went on about their day if they didn't want all this information. She's just trying to help others who might be feeling exactly the same way.
Different commenter here - It’s super cringy to me that she’s probably getting turned on by reliving her sexual experience in writing. It’s really making my skin crawl I had to stop reading. And I have great sex before anyone suggests I must be lacking my own sex life. I would never disclose a write up like this. It’s just not necessary
Poster here. Even tho it may be rushed I still enjoy it always have enjoyed my sex lift, there were just a few positions when I gained abit of weight that I felt uncomfortable with, but I let go and I had fun doing so. Sex is normal, it’s natural and it’s right, I don’t feel disgusting for sharing this with the world, infact I feel amazing that my partner absolutely adores every inch of me as I do him and none of your comments, views or opinions will break me down. This subject isn’t taboo, and if you’re skin crawled that’s on you not me, it’s not my fault you find other people’s exchange in love disgusting, it’s how you view it and how you choose to see it. Sex shouldn’t have to be secret and not talked about. If you don’t like talking about it then that’s fine, keep it to yourself but don’t try and make someone feels disgusting for sharing an act that you partake in with your partner and just because I shared doesn’t make me any less of a person. I shared love nothing more and nothing less and for that I will not apologise for. Oh and as for getting turned on by reliving my experience actually no, after I Did the amazing act with my partner I was fairly blown away and excited to share, I didn’t feel turned on I just felt loved and good about myself and about our 17 yrs together the fact that we can still do it with passion and love which I find is extremely powerful. I don’t know what you do with your partner but by the sounds of your personality so far I hope your man is free to be himself without you cringing or judging him for speaking of such things that are normal Wether that be sex or something else. I would never post in my real profile for the world to see of course I have respect for myself and my family, would I share this with close friends who would be so happy for me yes, I have already helped a friend to let go to and she’s glowing. What I shared was hard to do, I knew this would bring out some degrading opinions and I knew people would come for me assuming they know me, but if I can help someone just let go and allow themselves to be in the moment, then my job is done. So with that said, love (sex) is not cringey and the fact you feel that way would be wise to look within yourself and find out why cause it’s certainly not my issue is it now. Have a lovely day.
Poster here: I have always had good sex, he literally knows my body and feels me on deeper levels than just sex and I feel it too. Cause of our kids we can’t be spontaneous, it has to be planned and quick but none the less it’s still good even when I was self conscious it was still good, I just wouldn’t let him do certain positions. Because we don’t want our kids to hear us and then also come out of our wardrobe with messy hair, red cheeks etc it’s so obvious so we rush.
I don’t feel the delivery was much at all I mean I could have went into more detail, but I know this triggers some people so I didn’t, me being me tho I wanted to. And you would be surprised there is a lot of people out there who talk about love, what you do and what I did was nothing but love, you should never feel ashamed to talk about that with those you feel comfortable with. It’s very normal, we all do it.
I actually always work on myself, and lately my weight, so I can feel even better than before. I’m a giving, kind, beautiful person, I go above and beyond for my family and friends, and even for people I don’t know. I give money to people on the street who need it the most, and I have been helping my sister in law financially for the past year as she is being financially abused, I’m very giving, very loving and very open minded and understanding. I don’t usually say stuff like this about myself and I don’t expect a thank you for any thing that I do. But what I do know is I’m alway working on myself to be a better person than I was yesterday, I posted this with love in the hopes that I could help someone just let go and speak up their sex life is they have been having some issues. I never forced you to read my post and I never forced you to comment. No one is obligated to go and do what I did, your weren’t forced or pushed to read this, you weren’t pushed to tell me I need work on myself cause you were pissedh I shared a beautiful experience, you weren’t pushed to judge me, you weren’t pushed to comment and you certainly can go and have sex on your own accord without anyone pushing you. It’s certainly not my fault that my post made you feel that way, that’s your issue and yours alone so the fact you tried to make it mine isn’t how I see it. You might need to go and work on how to be okay with different people in the world and be accepting of others and their choices and if you don’t like something then don’t read it no one forced you to, so if you feel triggered that’s on you. You really need to open your mind, not most people have a good sex life, there are a lot who are suffering and I can tell you now it’s because of insecurities and not letting go, that’s what I believe to be one of the many big issues in some marriages. Have a nice day.
And Here she rants on again. Why don't you accept people's responses too instead of yourself getting all offensive and passive aggressive wen someone else has a different opinion to yours? It doesnt mean any of the women here have a lack luster sex life , it's just that People don't have to like the way you wrote it and thatsx fine too. Don't judge them for not liking the way you wrote it If you can't give other people's opinions the same respect.
Have a nice day.
im In no way offended at all, it really doesn’t dampen my day. But I too have a right to respond to difference of opinions, just because I’m the poster doesn’t mean I can’t respond to each comment, and just because I do respond that doesn’t mean I’m offended, and I also never said anyone else’s sex life was neither bad or good, I actually don’t try and judge into things I don’t know about a person and I can only comment on what is said to me. It sounds like your okay with The comments I receive let’s say more leaning towards the negative cause you obviously feel frustrated and annoyed at my responses but your certainly not okay with my responses and that’s okay too. Your most likely not into my post which is fine and certainly not in agreement with my responses either which is okay too. But I am human just like the rest who commented and it’s totally okay for me to respond to each one. So I accept your comment and also really don’t care what you have to say either. I have done a lot less judging on here but rather been the one judged the most and I’m fine with that. If you felt the need to get pissed or whatever you are maybe offended Then why allow yourself to feel that way? This is the internet, laugh, play nice maybe even put your smarty pants on. Chill, relax it’s okay to respond Wether they agree or don’t agree. Have a magical, wonderful, fantastic day. ⭐️⭐️
So, we all chose to read this post right? We're free to feel however we like about it, yes?
It didn't resonate with me or particularly interest me (no offence OP) so I stopped reading and went about my day. Curiosity got the best of my and again I chose to read through the 30 odd comments when I came back later.
I have a question for those of you who didn't like reading this but left a comment - why? Or more specifically, why did you feel the need to leave a judgemental comment?
I'm not rrying to be an asshole, I'm just genuinely curious what exactly the point was and what you got out of doing that?
I read part of it. Commented when I got to the point of I didn’t need the detail.
I think she posted for the shock value
Poster here: I posted it to 1: express my happiness, 2: to hopefully help someone feel confident enough to let go and enjoy that special time. I didn’t post it for shock value, I posted it to share and just because it’s “taboo” for some doesn’t mean I have an agenda. If this was about my sex life being shit, I bet I wouldn’t have all the judgmental comments and assumptions but because I posted something positive about my sex life I’m being condemned. Why?? Why do people have to be suffering to be understood, why can’t happiness even if it’s about sex be celebrated without the irrelevant assumptions? Some people are so entitled, but that’s okay I understand that everyone is different and it’s not me living the life of an unopened mind which I might add that type of mind set would make me personally miserable but that’s me. You do you and I’ll do me and if you don’t like it then don’t entertain what I was posting about. My head is held high.
I thought maybe she hadn't checked if there was a lock on the bedroom door.
Good or bad, doesn’t matter, I think people just don’t want the details lol
You remind me of that show, the Forkers, the second one, remember the mother, she was a sex therapist lol
The majority of people see sex as private, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with them, as you have stated or that they are prudes. Different strokes for different folks, we are all different. Good luck to you, to be honest, I could have done without the graphic detail 😂😂😂
My kids are teenagers so I get the whole not wanting them to know or hear. My partner and I can both get off in under 5 minutes! We can also go for a good hour if we want but that's usually when we are too drunk 😂. It's good being with someone a long time and just knowing how each other's bodies work.
Lol that’s my life. It’s honestly so beautiful, when your with someone for such a long time and enjoy those intimate moments every time it’s one of the best feelings in the world and I’m so glad you relate, most of my friends don’t have a good sex life which sucks but I love mine and it has so much more meaning than just sex. So glad you get what I’m saying and the excitement of it as well 💕💕
Obviously a lot of women feel this is not the forum for this type of detail. Perhaps the post should be removed before it goes to Facebook
Gosh the responses on this page swing so extremely it gives me whiplash.
I've read some really confronting, quite explicit details on this page pertaining to negative sexual experiences and even sexual assault. In those cases, no one ever says "yuck, unnecessary, I didn't need the details, TMI, you're only telling us that for shock value".
In those posts, people are kind and empathetic, supportive and I assume just scroll on if they don't know what to say.
I understand that those questions have different conotations but what I just don't understand is why we can't give the same respect to someone who just wants to share a positive sexual experience?
Just in general here, I think more people should exercise their right to say nothing a little more often...
We have 4 kids, including teenagers and have an amazing sex life. Find it weird that you needed to brag about it. It didn't read as though you wanted to help others, more like a form of exhibitionism. It's ok if you are into that, but I found this post quite strange 🤷♀️
Agreed. And the subsequent comments really proved that I think.