Hi IM's
I am a young Mum of a 11month old DD and I am 20w pregnant with DD #2.
My daughters father and I have a very toxic relationship. Last night things got out of hand and he slapped me on the face. This incident resulted in us agreeing that it is best if we part ways and I move out of this families house. (This is not the first time things have got out of hand. And he is constantly calling me names)
Today he is pretending like nothing has happened.
How do I get enough strength to pick up my stuff and leave?
Where do I even start?
We have car loans and joint accounts.
Thanks IMs
I am in desperate need of some help.
5 Replies
First thing you should do is take half or at least some of the money from the joint account. Then remind him of the conversation last night and tell him now that you and hopefully him has calmed down you believe it is still the best thing if you leave the house.
Loans and the accounts deal with after your out of the house and out of harms way.
You may be best to see a lawyer about the loans joint accounts you can just contact the bank and have your name removed.
Contact a friend or family memeber to stay with and just go.. take what you need and try to stay as calm as possible.. Im sure this is an extremely hard thing to do and muxh easier said than done but know that your making the best decision for you and your children.
Hugs!! .
Totally agree!
I would make a choice and get a close friend or family member in on it. Contact legal aid and make some arrangements. Sadly what do you want your daughters to grow up like? Would you like them to be in a relationship
Like this? You have the strength to do what you need for you and your girls. Get support and get out.
Just remember the behavior he is modeling to you is what your kids will think is acceptable so grab ya stuff and go the materialistic things can wait good luck xx
Coming from someone who's been there I say RUN! You have recognised its toxic and clearly he isn't man enough to admit it's not working and "make it or break it..." Also coming from a woman who's been there before if you don't take this into your own hands it WILL get worse and you don't want your children seeing that! Absolutely lending you all my strength - keep your head up as once he has no control over you he will get nasty!