Feeling really let down lately, or could you say pretty pissed off. Why do people find it to be ok to say to pregnant women, " wow you are fat" or " are you having twins", "for your sake I hope this baby is early because it's going to rip you open" etc
Do any other mothers deal with these comments and find them to be really rude? Or am I just being bat shit crazy haha. This is a blessing to carry a child and yes I am going to be bigger then usual because I am carrying a bloody human lol. Would love people's positive comments and if they have had similar treatment? Thanks!!
You are so fat comments in pregnancy
You are so fat comments in pregnancy
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I loved those comments, I made them myself about myself.
Truth is some women do like the comments, woah your big etc, some women find them insulting but I think those that make those comments enjoyed those discussions when they were going through the changes.
I just enjoyed the discussions about how my body was changing full stop because it was fascinating. But I've never really been sensitive about my body image.
I got alot of that with my daughter, people can be insensitive and rude.
You can respond with a nod and smile and walkaway without further comment or you can be sarcastic in response to the you're big comments and say something like"I know! It's like I'm growing a whole other human or something" or "holy Shit you to"
Everyone is different and pregnancy impacts everyone differently even between different pregnancies....first time around no one believed I was pregnant. By my third I was HUGE!
And everyone wanted to touch my belly. I hate being touched. People seem to take Liberties with pregnant women they wouldn't do if they weren't including being incredibly rude.
If you weren't pregnant they wouldn't make such comments. Just because you are doesnt suddenly give them the right to comment.
I gave birth last week to a beautiful baby boy at 38+2. He weighed 2.75kg but i gained 20kgs. I had people comment that i had a cute small bump which was fine..i didn't mind but i hated people saying that i'm fat. I wasn't fat just bigger and was starting to swell up towards the end. I also had people poking at my swollen arms and legs which really pissed me off. It is a blessing to carry a child and they are just being rude. The best thing to do is to ignore them and pretend you didn't hear it. Congrats. Be happy :) don't let the comments get to you.
I'm a petite person when not pregnant, pregnancy #1 I gained more than 20 kilos. Pregnancy #2 I gained only 9kg regardless of what I ate.
Interestingly I got more comments the second time round. The person I shared my office with had a pet name for me during pregnancy which I particularly loved.
People sometimes feel like they need to comment which is why they say things like that. It's up to you whether you take it personally or not though.... you're the one in charge of your emotions.