I'm a working mum and am always made to feel guilty about it from other people. SAHM are always telling me how hard their life is and how easy I have it. I don't like the divide but tbh, it pisses me off!
I do everything they do plus work, so how can they have it harder? Do they just say it because the know I do but want to compete?
Im sick of hearing how working mums are selfish and how selfless SAHM mums are.
What to you think? Who has it harder!?
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I've done both. I don't think one is harder than the other just different!
It also depends on what sort of job you have, wether you have to work or it's a choice.
Personally I think we just need to stop comparing.
It's possible those mums would prefer to be in the workforce but feel guilted into being a SAHM? But who knows! Do what works for you and let people's stupid comments go where they belong
I personally think both are as hard as each other. Sahm mums don't get time to themselves whereas working mums get that time whilst they are working but have to cram in extra when not working. Both are challenging and rewarding.
The age old question... :-) Women can be their own worst enemies sometimes. I think any judgement on this stems from guilt (from the judges side) If you know you need to work and that that is what is best for your family just tell them you are doing the right thing for your family. They are both hard gigs but I think being a working mum is harder... Maybe because I am single and it all up to me. Maybe a bit easier if you have a helpful partner. I have to work to support my daughter and have a comfortable life. Whatever you choose be comfortable with it and as for others comments just respond and say it is what's best for my family... :-)
I've done both and they're equally as hard IMO. But I don't think comparing is helpful!
I have done both and now work casually with part time uni. I think both have advantages and disadvantages I don't think one is better than the other or doing one makes that person a better mother or person. It is personal choice and comparing or judging does nothing to help. Each family does what is right for them
i think it depends on the person, i have been a sahm for 5 years, now im able to take my youngest to work with me and i work a fair bit, if i could go back, i would have liked to go back to work earlier because for me it feels easier, the house doesnt get as dirty, i do all the house work in one day, then the rest of the weekend is ours to enjoy, we thoroughly enjoy the time we have together because the rest of the week is so busy... but i thrive from the division betweeen work then play, whereas when your a sahm, theres no division, it all just feels like work
This is ridiculous! There is no comparing! We are all mothers.
You dont see men going around comparing how hard they have it to each other.
Actually if i had to pick a winner of the 'i have it the hardest' it would be parents of special needs children. They all deserve a big medal!
I also really dont like this post as you are putting down SAHM by saying 'how can they have it harder?'
You havent walked in their shoes so please dont judge. Worry about your own family and not what other mothers are or arent doing!
Argh this makes me so mad when people say this. I was a full time working mum for 10 years, it's only been the last couple of years I have been a sahm. And I think working mums do it so much harder!! Being a sahm is hard work but nothing like trying to juggle work, kids, child care, housework, shopping, food. The only ones who can say they have it harder are mums who have never worked and never experienced both sides. When I was working i overhead a conversation between two mums, one was saying how another mum was complaining how when she gets home from work her son is cranky, the other one said well if she stayed home with her son he was probably a delightful child in the morning but she is to busy with the own life for that. Oh that made my blood boil, I had to walk away or I would have had a few choice words to say to them.
Well done for sticking at your work! You are the one who deserves a medal!