Hi lovely Mammas!!
I'll keep it short, I currently work 2 days a week, I'm thinking of going to 4 full days a week, I've 2 kidlets and it would mean more days in child care. The more days will help considerably financially and I'm ready to up my hours, but struggling a little with guilt about having my boys 3 days in childcare. Anyone felt the same?
Not sure what I'm asking, just looking for support, advice, your stories.
I know it's what's best for me and my family, but thought I'd put it out there!
Thanks!
Working Mamma....
Working Mamma....
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Parenthood Guilt, Kids, Money
6 Replies
Why would you feel guilty for sending your kids to a fun, educational environment, where they are well looked after?
If you went to work and left your kids locked in the house unsupervised, that would be something to feel guilty for.
I work 9 days a fortnight and dont feel guilty at all. I felt guilty when I was a stay at home mum. Each to their own
Thank you so much for asking this question as I myself have struggled with this not only at the time of increasing the days but over the past 3.5 years. Reading some of the responses it's encouraging to know that we are not the only ones that feel like this and have made it work. I have always been a working woman, when I had my daughter I put her in daycare to interact with other kids and then an opportunity to go further with work came up and I took it after weighing up the pros and cons for her, myself and as a family. It is most definitely a juggling act between giving your best at work and being a mother, wife, cook,cleaner ect. In my experience I find that I do give a 100% but it adjust as to what I need to do at work and then what's on with my daughter, bday party's, school activities, doctor's app ect. I also find that I have next to no time for me. I enjoy the drive to work after the school drop off with no radio... the peaceful silence of nothing is magical. You will make the right choice for you and your family and just remember there will be shit days but the good days are the ones you and your family will hold on to and remember.
Thank you so much for asking this question as I myself have struggled with this not only at the time of increasing the days but over the past 3.5 years. Reading some of the responses it's encouraging to know that we are not the only ones that feel like this and have made it work. I have always been a working woman, when I had my daughter I put her in daycare to interact with other kids and then an opportunity to go further with work came up and I took it after weighing up the pros and cons for her, myself and as a family. It is most definitely a juggling act between giving your best at work and being a mother, wife, cook,cleaner ect. In my experience I find that I do give a 100% but it adjust as to what I need to do at work and then what's on with my daughter, bday party's, school activities, doctor's app ect. I also find that I have next to no time for me. I enjoy the drive to work after the school drop off with no radio... the peaceful silence of nothing is magical. You will make the right choice for you and your family and just remember there will be shit days but the good days are the ones you and your family will hold on to and remember.
Thank you so much for asking this question as I myself have struggled with this not only at the time of increasing the days but over the past 3.5 years. Reading some of the responses it's encouraging to know that we are not the only ones that feel like this and have made it work. I have always been a working woman, when I had my daughter I put her in daycare to interact with other kids and then an opportunity to go further with work came up and I took it after weighing up the pros and cons for her, myself and as a family. It is most definitely a juggling act between giving your best at work and being a mother, wife, cook,cleaner ect. In my experience I find that I do give a 100% but it adjust as to what I need to do at work and then what's on with my daughter, bday party's, school activities, doctor's app ect. I also find that I have next to no time for me. I enjoy the drive to work after the school drop off with no radio... the peaceful silence of nothing is magical. You will make the right choice for you and your family and just remember there will be shit days but the good days are the ones you and your family will hold on to and remember.
I work full time with two sons and have done so since they turned 1 (12 months off for each). I won’t lie, it’s a massive juggle but I have a great husband who rolls up his sleeves and gets on with things.
Please don’t feel guilty and please don’t let others judge you. I have heard it all (including my own mum’s judgement) but we get on with it and it works for our family. I am actually dropping down to four days next month and I am so excited. This will be for our about 5 months while our youngest starts school.
We have terrific support in place which is our family day carer and the wonderful ladies at the before and after school place our eldest son goes to. We love our jobs and the satisfaction I get from my career is something I really love. Someone once said to me to make your decision and own it! Its taken me the best part of 6 years to do that, but its spot on advice.
I wish you lots of luck. We got a cleaner and have take away on Friday nights but apart from that I run the house like a military boot camp.
x