Hey there!
I'm in two minds at the moment! My partner (21) and I (25) have been talking about having kids. I've already got two of my own and he is absolutely amazing with them! I can't fault him in anyway. I've done the baby bit, I would love to have one with my partner also but I'm unsure when. As a personal choice, I don't want to have kids after 29. He wants to start trying now but said he is more than willing to wait until I'm 100% ready. The thing is, I don't think I'm ever going to be 100% ready to have another baby. I'm not sure if I'm being selfish because I found it very difficult when I had my second child to share the love, of course it came naturally and I love them both very much equally, but I'm so scared that it may be a re-run of my previous relationship when we have our own baby. What do I do!? Am I being silly? Will I know when I'm ready to have another? I'm lost! Any advise would be lovely, thanks so much!
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Personally I'd wait. You have time on your side here. Enjoy the kids you have and your partner for a few more years. Having children isn't a race. Maybe work on some of those emotional skills you want to work on in the mean time. You can take the time to get ready.