Hi ladies, I was wondering if you ever had issues with your bil girlfriend. She always buts In and tells me how to take care of my child. She is a child care worker and she really does not know what boundries are. I told that I know what I'm doing and she gets angry and walks off plus my Inlaws think its normal because she is a child care worker. One time I wanted to take my child outside at my Inlaws and my bil girlfriend pushes me and my child back inside coz my mil was smoking which she wasn't and slam the door on our faces and almost slams the door on my little girls fingers and my feet. I think she goes way to far but my Inlaws think that we are overreacting and they always take her side coz she is a child care worker. I'm glad my husband is on my side and he always stands up for me. Plus the girlfriend goes off at me as if my child is her own.
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They sound way over involved in your lives. Time to distance yourselves as much as possible. Minimise contact. Nobody has the right to yell at you. If she is doing this in your home you have the right to demand she leaves. It's not healthy to have people like that around you more than absolutely necessary.
I guess it depends what she is saying to you exactly? I think you need to be more specific for me to make a comment if she is butting in where she shouldn't be or if she is just genuinely looking out for the best interest of the child at the time
It's not ok to behave that way, it's none if her besinese and she could have hurt the child and it's wrong for her to push the child back in the door.
Doesn't matter if she is acting in ( what she thinks is) the best interest of the child. She's not the parent. Totally overstepping. Who ever wants unsolicited parenting advice?? No thanks!!
I'd tell her straight you didn't ask her opinion and that she remember you're the parent of those kids and shes way crossing the line and it's irritating in a way she won't know until she has kids and hopefully doesn't have sosomeone do that to her. And ignore the inlaws too. Tell them the same thing, she's overstepping the boundaries and you don't need their opinion on it either. Just Because three people agree doesn't mean they're right. Families can be so off the mark sometimes.
my pet hate is child care workers telling parents how to parent when they dont have kids of their own, because they read it in a book!
dont be afraid to let her know that you are the parent. she sounds pushy so u may have to be a little pushy back.
In all honesty I don't think it would matter what profession she was in she would still treat you this way... Just sucks she gives us child care workers a bad name... I would never treat another person this way I do everything I can to reinforce the fact that the parent is doing a great job... (Obviously if there's no sign of abuse)