My 3.5 year old whinges and cries all the time (when he doesn't get the answer he's looking for) and it makes me so cross. It grates me until I'm ready to blow!!!!! It's only in the last 6 months - up until then I've enjoyed him and found him pretty easy. But this is testing me. Doesn't matter how positive my direction is, or if I give him choices etc, everything is a fight and a mini tanty. I'm over it!!!!
My question is, when foes the whinging phase end, and what strategies did you use to see it on it's way quicker!!!! Feeling guilty for always feeling so frustrated with him!!!
Whinging
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The tantrums had driven me to madness ... To tear two weeks ago, I too had had a blissful time untill about 4 months ago.
Tantrum over every.lettle. Thing. I didn't put her shoes on right I wouldn't let her lick bird shit I don't have anything in my fridge she wants to eat she won't go in pram or the car she woulnt do anything.
I know this is sill and really sorta hippy approach but I did two things. First I slowed down , if she took and hour to get ready so be it. If she wanted to stop at every flower and smell it so be it, if she wants to stop and wave to 40 cars . So be it!. Within reason ovcourse! When we can't do what she wants an a tantrum starts instead of getting frustrated, walking away or even getting agry I breath, and sit down with her, she doesn't want me to cuddle her but I just sit there and say I understand your frustrated/angry/sad I dot. Like it when dadadaD happens either but unfortunately that's not one of our choices we can ... Or ...
Seriously our tantrums have gone from regular 20 minute ordeals to 1-5 minutes max... And much calmer tantrums! Not back bending screaming ones just agry face shoulder slumping sooks lol
I just remind met self to stay calm and continue to lean how to slow. Down, and I'm so thankfull for my daughter teaching me this daily in this chaos of life I had forgotten