I recently met a man, went on a few dates and things seemed like they would go somewhere. Luckily for me they didn't because he shared a story from his past (more like a couple).
He told me he cheated on his ex wife a few months before he got married and then again shortly after. He laughed when he told the story. He didn't seem sorry at all. What I heard when he told that story 'I cheated on the person who I thought was the love of my life, and who I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, and so I won't hesitate to cheat on you'.
I was so proud of myself for walking away, because years ago I would have tried to stick it out and white knuckle it hoping he didn't do the same to me. Or naively thought I could love him more than his ex, treated him better than his ex so the same thing wouldn't happen.
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Love this... Red flags are everything. I believe that we get what we bargain for... You settle and you are just cheating yourself. Nothing wrong with walking away if someone can't treat you the way you deserve :-)
Very true! Or hope he loves you more. If he didnt love her or can't have a functional relationship but stays in it anyway and acts badly...that's a red flag in itself. It's exhausting and life changing when it happens to you, I'd also run for the hills now before I put myself at risk of the fallout of another partner like that , but I guess it takes experience