What I've learnt in my first year of being a mum

Just a post about the things I've learnt in my first year of being a mum..

As the 1st birthday of my gorgeous girl approaches I have learnt, Women are evil. We knew that already but make them a mother and they become demons from the fiery pits of hell.. I didn't realize that when I became a mother to my sweet baby girl that I was going to be scrutinized for every parenting decision I made and my baby girls development picked apart.

The constant fight between mothers comparing their babies.. Saying yours is bottle fed automatically means I have destined my baby into a lifetime of doom because apparently this tin of formula is is going to cause my baby to develop things such as asthma, autism, learning disabilities, childhood cancer amongst other horrible things! You say you breast feed, oh your baby must need to feed very often you must be exhausted, you better not eat that it will go in to your breast milk, oh she's breast fed that's why she's on the small side..

That's just the start.. You started solids too early, you started solids too late, my baby can say 10 words at 6 months old, oh your baby only says 2? My baby started crawling at 8 months, yours isn't yet at 1? Hmm.. My baby can pull her self up and stand at things can yours? Oh she's 1 and has no teeth? Have you had her looked at, that's not right you know.
Seriously mothers, when did it become your right to compare your child to anybody else's? What gives you the right to belittle a woman because a baby may not be as advanced as yours? Or made to feel like your not an adequate mother for the choices your have made surrounding your babies care? If your baby isn't speaking 7 different languages and a trapeze artist in the circus by the time they are 1 then you have failed them as a mother..

When did parenting become this massive competition? I just wanted to enjoy my baby girl but from the moment she was born, BAM!! Everyone is an expert at parenting..
Hot tip ladies, what works for your baby, doesn't work for other peoples children.. And no you don't get to put your 2c in and pretend your the mother of the year and are the perfect woman every lady should look up to.. Just sit back down and be a legend in your own lunchbox.

Be supportive of your fellow child baring super heroes.. Don't compare their choices, support them, encourage them, praise them.. If we all had our babies back in the 60s there would be no growth charts, no development checks, no right or wrong.. Everyone would be looking after their baby whatever way they wanted and if they were alive at the end of the day it was a win! We grew up eating sour sobs, drinking from the hose, some fed carnation milk as a baby for god sake and look how bloody amazing we all turned out..

So look after each other, don't judge the mother in the supermarket with the screaming baby and the toddler on the floor having a tantrum because he wants a packet of twisties with her hair all disheveled and probably some baby spew on her top, go offer some support..

Because at the end of the day, we are all super heros just for being parents..