I have never seen a problem with young children being in the room while their baby brother or sister is being born - depending on how a woman is in labour. I am not what people refer to as a "Screamer". I like a lot of other women dont make a peep and I think thats ok for a 3 year old to see, but I think it would be quite traumatic for a 3 year old to see their mother writhing in pain, screaming her nut off and swearing at everyone! (which happens to be some of my friends!) Lol in saying that, having a 3 year old in the room may help the Mum tone things down? I think its a beautiful thing to have a child witness the birth of their sibling, being that its in a calm environment.
If my 3 yr old was in the room while I was in labour I don't think I could handle it. I would be so worried about the 3 yr old getting scared about me being in pain or seeing something they didn't like that I wouldn't be able to consentrate on the job that needs to be done. And frankly I think a 3 yr old is too young to experience something like that.
Each to there own but i would never put my 4 year old through that he would be so stressed and scared seeing me in pain and the blood thats involved in a new baby coming out. I have on the other hand showed my older kids the video of them and photos of them being born
I like the idea of having children around birth as it normalised the process. However I wasn't prepared to do it with my 2.5 year old because I felt he would be distracting for me & those caring for me. Additionally I didn't want him to feel frightened, or bored & usually I have my babies overnight! So I chose not to take him in there on the off chance there was a medical emergency & not only would it be scary for him & my husband, I didn't want my child upset & I didn't like the idea of my Hubby being pulled in two different directions. Once bub was safely here my eldest stayed with us & that was lovely :)
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I have never seen a problem with young children being in the room while their baby brother or sister is being born - depending on how a woman is in labour. I am not what people refer to as a "Screamer". I like a lot of other women dont make a peep and I think thats ok for a 3 year old to see, but I think it would be quite traumatic for a 3 year old to see their mother writhing in pain, screaming her nut off and swearing at everyone! (which happens to be some of my friends!) Lol in saying that, having a 3 year old in the room may help the Mum tone things down? I think its a beautiful thing to have a child witness the birth of their sibling, being that its in a calm environment.
I think it's fine but I would have someone who could remove them from the room/watch them in case things don't go as planned.
If my 3 yr old was in the room while I was in labour I don't think I could handle it. I would be so worried about the 3 yr old getting scared about me being in pain or seeing something they didn't like that I wouldn't be able to consentrate on the job that needs to be done. And frankly I think a 3 yr old is too young to experience something like that.
Each to there own but i would never put my 4 year old through that he would be so stressed and scared seeing me in pain and the blood thats involved in a new baby coming out. I have on the other hand showed my older kids the video of them and photos of them being born
Not for me, too much pain, too much blood, they won't remember it anyway, just a traumatic experience all around.
I like the idea of having children around birth as it normalised the process. However I wasn't prepared to do it with my 2.5 year old because I felt he would be distracting for me & those caring for me. Additionally I didn't want him to feel frightened, or bored & usually I have my babies overnight! So I chose not to take him in there on the off chance there was a medical emergency & not only would it be scary for him & my husband, I didn't want my child upset & I didn't like the idea of my Hubby being pulled in two different directions. Once bub was safely here my eldest stayed with us & that was lovely :)