its a loong story.
my husband and I have been together for 11 years. he has always been somewhat of an arrogant man.
we brought a house about 3 years ago and had our son 2 years ago. so I am a stay at home mum, I am a nail tech by trade so I book clients in most days of the week. so most clients are here for around half hour to 40 mins. (we built a room in the garage so I can work from home.) my partner works around 38 -40 hours a week. and I can bring anywhere from $300-$550 a week. to bring in thay kind of money with the many many people working from home I need to have around 6 clients a day.
here is my issue. today like most days he comes home grunts about his day asks how far away dinner is and walks off to our sons room (he was in his room taking a nap as he didn't have a proper sleep today) he wakes him up plays for afew mins then says to him ho find mum, I am in the kicthen cooking dinner and now my son who is sooky from being woken up is hanging at my feet when I ask him toentertain our son while I finish cooking he says well he wouldn't be sooky if he slept what the hell have you done all day? the house is a bloody mess dinner isnt ready. half way through dinner he mumbles something about the extra weight I have put on and then eats in silence. after dinner he goes and sits on the couch plate and food still on tablechair pushed out and plays on his phone. I clean up with son hanging off my legs. I suggest he may give son his bath and he says your the mum its your job. so I do that too. I bath my son give him a bottle and put him to bed meanwhile husband has trotted off to bed to watch tv and the lounge is a mess tv still going toys everywhere so I pack it up crawl into bed where he is laying there and he says to me before you get in can you make me a snack.. this is my day.every day.
if I dont make enough money he asks why.if I am busy looking after our son and working he complains about the house. he doesn't value my opinion any more and sometimes even cuts me off mid sentence to tell me part of his day. I can ask him a question up to 3 times and half the time I get a cant say or hard to say or dunno mate.
we were never the kind of couple that were overly affectionate but the whole arrogance chovinistic pig thing is really starting to piss me off.
what the hell am I supposed to do?
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Let him walk a day in your
Shoes :)
Yep, let him walk a mile in your shoes, but tell him to make his own effing snack! Your not his personal maid! Stand up to him. If he can't get it leave. This isn't the 1950s and I promise you if he doesn't get it soon it will get a lot worse. Don't get pregnant with this inconsiderate man until he has caught up to the 2000s!
He's a douche!
He sounds really unhappy too though. It may not just be that he's a douche, there might be something getting him down and he's taking it out on you.. Sit down with him, tell him how you're feeling, ask him how he's feeling. Ask if there's something that is going on that's upsetting him.
If nothing comes of it, or nothing changes, I'd then leave and see how time apart does yas.
Tell him from now on you will cook for your son and yourself but he will need to cook his own damn food including snacks. You will also not be doing his washing or his dishes or any other mess he makes. Tell him to suck it up!! You work and raise a child. He is a moron!!
Oh Honey, you have way more tolerance then me! I would have claimed his life insurance by now - he sounds like he needs a little smack round the ear - with a shovel ;) I hate when men think they have the more valuable role, I applaud you for continuing to work while you have a little one (being a mum is hard bloody work WITHOUT the full time job on top of it) if he were any kind of decent bloke he would try to help you with the baby and the house and not be a slack lazy selfish asshat, Im not sure what you can do about this situation, but you need to know that you are more worthy then this treatment - I know if it was me I would have left, you and your little one do not deserve to be treated like this!