What essential advice would you give to your chil/children when they are older?
I just read an IM question about the IM's hubby reverting to almost 'single-man' behaviour when they had a baby and it made me think of what advice I would give to my baby when she is older.
My bubs is a little girl (18 months) and i think some of the things I would tell her (and if I had a boy it would be the same type of advice!):
1. That she is gorgeous and complete the way she is. No other person will complete her as she is complete by herself. If she chooses to have a partner they should be someone who helps her add to herself but who doesn't complete or take anything away from who she is.
2. To strive to be whatever she wants. Being a woman does not impact her choices!
3. To be financially independent, even if she's married. Because she needs to ensure that she is taken care of (and her babies). But that I will always be there for her if she needs anything.
These are just a few things at the top of my head but I'm I interested to know what things you think are important to pass down to your children?
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I so agree with everything you've written. I'd also say. That you can live on less than you think you can, and money is not a good reason to stay in a relationship. Look after yourself and your babies first. I think if I had a girl I'd do what my parents did for me and that's educate me on budgeting, food shopping, car repairs, etc. And one hit/grab/push is one too many and there are NO excuses or reasons that can erase that.
I think I'd start installing those values now :) start early. Oh and let's celebrate our daughters achievements rather than dreaming about 'when they get married' and talking about that to them. My parents started early with me, age appropriately of course.
For my boy:
I love you, your special, you are not entitled to sex, you can tidy up after yourself. If you don't want to be a family man don't make one. You are way more than a paycheck. That paycheck does not entitle you to a personal slave. Treat women who come into your life how you would like your sisters/mum/ daughters to be treated.
Oh and real women come in a lot of different shapes and sizes, different grooming practices etc and they are all normal. Porn is not anything like real sex and if you have sex like your in a porno you will be a really bad lover! real sex has consequences beyond STIs and pregnancy.
Don't marry someone thinking they are going to change. It won't happen!