I am thinking about having another baby. I'm feeling like our family is not complete. 16 mths ago I was advised by my GP to have a termination due to a slipped disk in my back. I made the heart breaking decision to follow through as I couldn't risk more damage and spending my whole pregnancy in bed, unable to care for my then 4.5 and 2 year olds while my husband was at work.
My problem is I feel so guilty if I being another baby in the world when I terminated one pregnancy. I miss that little baby everyday and wish I could have brought it into the world. How can I move forward and forgive myself for not being able to bring that life into the world, but am well enough now to to add to our family??
Wanting another baby 16 mths after a termination
Wanting another baby 16 mths after a termination
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You had a termination for medical reasons, if you had had that baby it would have caused hardship to your family. Your medically well now, so it's a good time and you won't be impacting to your family. By not having another baby it's not going to change what happened. I think it would be natural to be grieving. Some counselling might be helpful. Give yourself a break
When I had a miscarriage I refused to even think to try for another one until after the due date. on the due date I sat and wrote a letter to my lost Angel and did a keepsake box. this was my way of grieving that loss. that process helped me move on. I have since had another baby and due for another in 6 weeks. Have you gone through a process?