Is it normal for my 12yo daughter to hate her siblings so much she is physically violent with them, hitting them, pinching them, kicking them. I'm horrified & want her to see a psychologist but she downright refuses. Her father thinks I'm overreacting and won't back me up at all. I understand the normal sibling fights but some of it is random & pre-meditated. I've spoken to her over & over and am about to start taking possessions off of her but honestly I think it's going to get worse. I'm just at a loss & don't know where to turn. She has been seeing the chaplain nearly all year but not much has changed.
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It's not normal and at 12 she doesn't get a choice about wether she sees a psychologist or not. And yeah possession removing would have happened long ago in my house. Time to take the power back. Drag her to the psychologist and expect to be given a behaviour plan that you need to follow to the letter. Rarely these problems are just about the child.
Oh wow yeah I would never have behaved like this as a 12 year old. As much as my younger siblings could annoy me I was loving and caring towards them.
Tell her too bad whether she wants to see a psychologist or not. You stand your ground mumma and tell her to get her butt in the car! Also don't make threats you dont follow up on. For example dont say 'right if that happens again I'm taking your ipod for a week!' And then not take it otherwise she'll just walk all over you. Also tell your husband that even if he doesnt agree with you, back you up anyway otherwise your just going to look like the mean parent. Good luck!