I dont even no where to begin i feel like im failing im so stressed lately with a nearly 2 year old who is pushing the limits and a nearly 1 year old im also nearly 30 weeks pregnant i feel like running away. I feel like my partner just doesnt help he cant find a job so he sleeps in till nearly 10 am and plays hes game all night, ive tried talking to him about this but of course it all ends up being my fault some how. Im tierd of cleaning the house my self just for the kids to make a mess again im tierd of cooking just to do the dishes again he doesnt help with any of it. We are struggling financially to even put food on the table and buy dinner each week i love my partner and my kids but i feel like its too much sometimes i dont even know what im asking i guess i just need to vent!
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oh, no, no, no. I'd be stressed to honey. That is so not ok. Does your partner have depression?? or is this him being a lazy ass. He should be at least helping you with the kids and housework, but it's his job to be looking for a job!!
This is not a partner, this is a teenage boy. Personally I would be giving the kids to him for the day and going out. Don't ask, just do. Go to your mums, or a friends house, have a bath or a sleep on there sofa, put your feet up. This guy is taking advantage of you.
I think in some ways it is much easier being a single mum because you aren't angry because there is an asshole not helping and you don't feel taken advantage of all the time.
Don't worry about the house being messy, yes that is life with really little kids. Its how we all feel. But if money is tight and he is playing games, SELL the games, if he is playing online games, get the internet cut off, you can't afford it.
If he refuses to meet you half way it is time to kick him out at least temporarily because otherwise it will be like this forever. You deserve more, you really do.
Posting back anon.. he doesn't have depression but has been babied hes whole life by hes mum hes litterly just lazy we have been together for 4 years and in that time we have had a 6 mnth break because it wasnt working but still apperently thats my fault aswell giving the kids to him doesnt work as he doesn't care having them the day. It seems to be whenever im home he thinks its okay to be lazy i will b telling him when he gets up (its nearly mid day here) that changes need to be made also can the lady im replying to pls somehow get in contact with me i really need someone to talk to :(
Ok so nothing changed, when you left him before, that means he has no intentions of changing EVER. He doesn't care and has no empathy for you. Exactly what do you love about him???
At least if you are out you will be RESTING. Even though he is an arse we have to acknowledge our roles in the situation. You need to rest. So go rest somewhere get him in the habit of you not being there at least 2 days a week.He needs to see how it feels on an ongoing basis. At least you will feel rested. It also will give you two days to think and make some decisions. Do you want this for the rest of your life? Think carefully. Are you prepared to live with someone who has no empathy for you??
I'd be making my plans to kick him out or leave, I suspect you will be finacially and emotionally better off in the long run.
Oh no. He doesn't have a job so he sleeps in. Whaaaaat??? He has two babies ( soon three) and a pregnant wife. He gets up when they do, at least half! He cooks, cleans, makes, grows, plays, does whatever helps a struggling family get by, and finds a job.
You don't need to carry that. Send him to the Dr. Chuck his game and tell him its all changing today you're exhausted!