Update.......16 year old daughter with boyfriend tried to commit suicide.
I should of added in my last post....I have tried to help, but it's hard when no one else cares or wants to help the situation...i guess im dammed if i do and dammed if i don't after reading everyone's comment's. ...i have spoken with the boyfriend about it and my huge concerns for my daughter, he just blamed me and hung up on me.
I know mental health issues are very hard ive been going through it for a while now, but should a 16 year old girl need to be the help, the doctor or get more worry, since he won't go see anyone or return to school, because he and his parents think he doesn't need help, working is the most important thing.
My daughter has spoken with her GP 3 time's since it all happened 2 week's ago. I don't want to loose or destroy the relationship i have with my daughter. I am lucky to have a daughter that will come and talk to me about anything. This is so stressful!!!!!
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This is a horrible situation to be in. I didn't read the all the suggestions but I'll just put down a few points and you can pick and choose what you want. Your daughter is your number one priority (which I know that you know already) but this is why my focus will be on her.
1. Take her to a psychologist and go with her to see a psychologist. Discuss your concerns so the psychologist can address them with her.
2. Call a helpline and ask for advice in regards to this.
3. Discuss (again with her) but say that you are concerned for her (not blaming him). Say that it is horrible that he feels this way and that nobody should feel this way. Ask her what she thinks he should do or what adviser she would give him. I know she's young but unfortunately this is such a mature topic so I think it would be best to talk to her as if she was an adult. I'd mention that because he is 16 and almost an adult he is responsible for his actions and the feelings he has don't relate to her but to a loss in himself.
I've had depression so I'm just thinking of the types of things which help such as talking to someone about it and even though your daughter may not have depression this is such a morbid topic that it could really Impact how she feels (which I'm sure it already does).
I hope it helps. Best of luck. If you've done this already just say and perhaps we can think of other ideas. X
When I read your question my heart went out to you. And my first thoughts are your responsibility is to your daughter 1st not this boy. Of course I remember what it was like when I was in love at 16 and how my parents couldn't have kept us apart unless we'd moved countries lol good on you for keeping the dialogue open between you and your daughter. It's such an incredibly difficult age where they really need to be making choices for themselves even if they are a bit crap!
I commented on your last post sharing my experience when I was 16 and how my parents tried to stop me seeing someone, which ended up me being in bad situations in the end. It's such a difficult situation because at 16 she truly believes she's in love and that it's forever. It's not, but she can't see that now. She will in the future just like I did. I understand how painful it was for my parents now and wish I had seen it back then. I hope it's the same for you one day.