Please...no negativity...just facts...emotional time.
We have just found out that we are expecting again. The reason we arent jumping for joy is that there is a very high risk the baby will have a serious health condition.
We have always agreed that if test results show that the baby were to have it, we would terminate (as we already have a child with the condition)
Now that we are actually in the situation to make the choice...we are torn!
My question is...at what stage of pregnancy is the cutoff for terminations? We need as long as possible to think about our decision
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I think if there is health reasons for the termination (like your case) they are very open to do it later in the pregnancy. My friend was 26 weeks along...
It needs to be referred by two different drs saying the chances of the child having a life threatening illness then it can be done up to 24 weeks. A condition that isn't life threatening still needs two drs saying expected quality of life and can be done up to 20 weeks. It is an induced labour after 16 weeks and is quite traumatic to say the least. Love and luck whatever choice you make. xx
Xx I wish I could give you a hug and warmth you need. Your OB will best answer this and your neonatalogist for advice.
Best wishes x
I had one last yr the tablet is best before 13 weeks. I was 6 weeks. Google search for your local family planning clinic and see if they do terminations. It was not a decision i made lightly. It was an easy enough process but the emotions afterwards are huge. I still sit here some days thinking i did the wrong thing but most days i am mentally healthy and during the time i was a wreck i felt like my world was ending and i couldn't breathe. I am happily married and always wanted 3 kids. I had my first on my own and second with my husband and we are still together. We spoke openly and honestly and i took both of our feelings seriously but the chances of putting both my mental and physical health including the chances of passing a medical condition on plus my other kids lives would have been changed. It IS spiritually hard to deal with but for the most part i know I did the right thing. I still want 3 kids but its going to be a want not a need. It is your choice who you tell and no one else needs to know but your hubby/partner. The only person who will judge you the most is you.