After a challenging and at times heartbreaking struggle with infertility, we "completed" our family 12 months ago with our 2nd precious child. 5 years ago we were told we would not have children of our own, but we persisted with any and every medical & natural procedure and we were so lucky to be blessed with our miracle babies.
We have just found out we are pregnant with #3 and are really struggling to get our heads around it. We have never ever ever considered the possibility of an unplanned pregnancy. Should be a blessing right - but instead we feel so stressed and worried? I have only just gone back to work from mat leave and I won't be back long enough to claim PPL. We're broke and still recovering from living on 1 wage for a year let alone the costs to conceive our last child leading up. Neither of us had wanted a 3rd child, and I'm worried about how we will cope and share our love and time. Our support network has already diminished going from 1 child to 2. I'd love to hear from other IM's who have been in the same boat. Do we just need some time to get our head's around it?
Unplanned pregnancy after infertility
Unplanned pregnancy after infertility
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You will be ok hun.. You have always had a pregnancy after hardwork so this time it came as surprise which you are not used to. So YES to you question at the end. Good luck :-)
Thank you! I'm now 14 weeks (was much further along than I thought) and our beautiful baby is growing wonderfully. We still have some worries at the back of our minds (ie I haven't told work yet, & there's no way around it money will be very tight), but we have come to see this as a blessing.
You will be ok hun.. You have always had a pregnancy after hardwork so this time it came as surprise which you are not used to. So YES to you question at the end. Good luck :-)
Oh honey, firstly congratulations. This is a huge blessing and breakthrough for you. What immediately came to my mind was if you saw a post about a mum struggling at the thought of a termination what would you have said as a mum struggling with infertility. I think you may have said please keep the baby or adopt it out to a family that can't have children. It probably would have broken your heart. I have 4 children and we thought we would struggle financially but you know what we haven't. There are times when it's tough but I wouldn't have it any other way.
Thank you and yes you are correct. After struggling with infertility the moment you hold your baby for the first time all that pain goes away, but I know it was real and intense and hurt a lot - nearly all the time. I would've struggled to hear any mother think of a baby as anything less than a miracle.