Last week I went for my 20 week scan.
the sonographer seemed like he was thorough, but when it came to reveling the gender, he just said what it was, in a non convincing way. I didn't see the part he was looking at so I couldn't see for myself.
came home only to realise that I didn't get one good picture on the disc. All he gave me was the pics that he sent to the doc. Seen my midwife today and she said the report was very basic. Just stated that baby is growing how she should be. My midwife picked up on the fact that I was unhappy about no good pictures, and still not convinced on the gender. She suggested I ask my doc for another ultrasound referral. I am tossing up if I should or not. I am not happy with my 20 week scan at all, but am I over reacting with crazy hormones? Thoughts?
Unhappy with 20 week scan
Unhappy with 20 week scan
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It depends how much value you place on this things. In my day you couldn't really see anything anyway so it wasn't considered a picture of your baby, the gender was also totally unreliable anyway so often you just had no way of knowing what the gender was until birth. What I cared about was if my baby was healthy. That doesn't mean wanting to know the gender for sure and having a good photo isn't important because expectations in these events have changed since my day and so if you'd really like those things ask for them.
I'd definitely ask for another one because you will carry around this feeling of being unsatisfactory for the rest of the pregnancy plus these experiences are precious because you can't ever relive them.
In this day and age we can tell the sex and get photos so why shouldn't you take advantage of this service.
I was so excited for my 20 week scan because my 12 week went wonderfully and I got a African lady which is fine I'm not racist but she didn't speak to me at all not one word. I told her I don't want to know gender she totally ignored me and I also didn't get any pics. I walked out and complained so the usual guy took me back in and got me some nice photos.
This is your baby do it your way x
go ask for another one :) if it means something to you then it will be worth it. hopefully your expectations aren't too high incase you get another one and you aren't happy with it. is this your 2nd child? I know I couldn't really see much on my 20 week scan, it looked like an alien haha. I don't think your overacting though!
Thank you ladies for your replies. This is my third pregnancy... but has been a big gap of 6 years since my second. I really think having a nice pic is important I have one of each of my others.
I won't mind whatever the gender, (I already have one of each) but I am one of those people that likes to know. And when the midwife said the report was very basic, made me second guess just how thorough the sonographer was.
id go somewhere that does private scans - non medical, you will get some great pics and at 20 weeks they will be able to tell you the sex. id recommend miracle me if you are near Brisbane but NOT precious previews. their quality was terrible. we went for the dvd package and got heaps of pics, a dvd (with our choice of music) and they confirmed gender. my partner works away so he missed all other scans. he loved coming to this one. its purely for you to enjoy seeing bub and they spend a lot of time trying to get you good photos :) congratulations and good luck!
Ultra sounds is the most exciting part of all those drs appointments you may not be able to be bulk billed because you have asked for another but i say 100% worth it