My hubby and I have been married for 2 years and together for over 10 years. He's 38 and I'm 36. We have decided we're ready to start intentionally trying to fall pregnant. We haven't used birth control for last 2 years and we were happy if we fell pregnant but hasn't happened yet. We are planning to see a Dr to get medical advice. My question is for Mums who have been TTC around our age - how long did it take, how do you deal with the voice of possible dissapointment, did you fall with medical intervention or naturally, any tips for us? Love to hear your story. Thanks in advance :D
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Due to your age and the fact you've not been using contraceptive for two years, I'd be speaking to my doctor about getting checked. Simple things can make a big difference. Weightloss if you're carrying extra weight (for both people) etc.
Thank you for replying, we are planning to see our Dr, I've edited my post to include that ☺
You could try going to get acupuncture, that can be a great way to fall pregnant naturally but winter some help. I fell pregnant straight away with acupuncture after being diagnosed with secondary infertility. Definitely recommend it, there's nothing to lose!
Thanks for replying, will definitely look into it ☺
I had my first at 36 im now carrying my 2nd at 39. We tried for a year and sought professional advice. Hubby had what I like to call homer simpson sperm. Confused swimming in wrong direction doh. And I was told I had a very low egg count. So when I ovulated I didnt always release an egg. We went through 2 years of unsuccessful ivf gave up and conceived a month later our first. My weight increased dramatically and I decided on gastric surgery to help lose the weight. Im now 40kgs lighter 39 and 22 weeks pregnant. Fertility problems are different for everyone you need to see a specialist knowing the reason can help you plan it better. Ivf is not always the answer dont let them tell you to take that path first. Stupidly we were told it was the only way. 30k later no results. A better knowledge of our fertility issues and work on our timing increased our outcome. And weightloss surgery was not just to get pregnant it was to improve my whole wellbeing. It has taken so long to get to here. It has had its moments but were here now. My next decision is should I try for a third in my 40s as I always wanted more than 2. Goodluck I hope it happens soon for you both as it gets harder as you get older.
Honestly it depends when you're having sex. My husband and I (he was 42 and I was 34) tried for a year and didn't get pregnant. Once I started using the ovulation kit and actually pin-pointing that finite window it only took two months. There are only about 3 days during an entire month that you can actually get pregnant. Best of luck.
I was 40 when I met my now fiancé and 41 when we tried to conceive, we where only giving ourselves 6 months as I would then turn 42 and we didn't want to try then. We made peace that if we didn't fall pregnant in that period our relationship would survive but on a different level and we would travel a different path together. So we put no pressure on falling pregnant and not sure if that was the key or not but within 2 months we where pregnant so not sure if we where dam lucky or just decided that there was a path for us either way. Good luck hun I wish you so much happiness.