I've written in before and received amazing support and help and hoping for the same. I have beautiful little 3 year old boy who is happy healthy young man. However over the last few weeks he is throwing the most rotten temper tantrums! I am at a loss! He screams kicks and refuses to listen! I am at the end of my rope!!!!
I am not with his father but haven't been since before he was born (shared custody) my partner has been is his life for over 2 years, I work full time have done always apart from maternity leave. So there are no huge changes that I can think of that would be upsetting him.
What I am asking for I guess is strategies to cope when he is having a melt down. I do all the usual, time out, take his toys away but nothing is working!!! I find myself getting angry at him and then at the end of it I walk away and cry because I loose it at him! I'm a grown person yelling at a 3 year old! I feel like the worst mother! All I keep thinking is where has my son gone & what do I do? Please advice would be amazing! Please no harsh comments I feel bad enough as it is! Thank you all in advance!
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Terrible twos have nothing on 3 year olds. For all my.kids this is where we bought in the reward charts in our house. Its just a piece of paper with squares on it if they get one row of stickers they get a choice from the reward box. Which is just some cheap toys from the two dollar store. Reward the good behaviour and try as best you can ignore the bad behaviour. Once they get a few stickers and get to choose from the reward box i found they really started to listen and activly try to be better behaved.
Just let him have the tantrum! Don't pay attention to it, just let him cry it out, don't reason with him. He can't be reasoned with. As long as he isn't in danger of hurting himself just ignore it. It passes. You don't need to make it all better, and they eventually calm themselves down and realise it's a pointless waste of energy chucking tantrums. Tantrums are a normal annoying part of childhood.