Some outsiders views,
So my problem is with my sister an my beautiful niece, I have for some time now suspected asperges /autism in my niece (7 ) due to distance I never spent enough time to really be sure enough to say something and risk offending expect ally considering there are other factors that could have explained certain things , anyways after spending more time with them over the past year I am more sure than ever something isn't fully right , I know she knows something's not right , she is having her tested for things relating to sleep, so my question is do I suggest to her that I suspect autism if they are already trying to find the cause of herbehavioural issues and risk hurting her or hope that these tests begin to point her in the right direction , we get along well and love each other dearly but there's a big age gap that's always sort of hindered a close friendship and a personality difference too, I feel she may get hurt an defensive and angry Iv I bring it up, or be totally fine notinha on between, what would you do take the risk?? I should mention I work with childeren and lots of asperges/autism affected kids. And I have noticed her behaviour taking it's toll on her this year in particular ....
Bit lost as the how I can help her she has always looked out for me and taken care of me and I want to help her I don't know how though when it's been a child at work I always braiht it up with the parents but because I'm afraid she will get upset with me I'm so confused
any helpful suggestions would be great please no nastiness
Think my niece is affected by asperges
Think my niece is affected by asperges
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If you's are close and open with each other I don't see the problem in suggesting it, as you said you have knowledge with children with this, its more so you care about your niece and not trying to be nasty, she is seeing a medical team so if you really felt uneasy on telling her I'm sure they will pick anything up with her, at the end of the day its her daughter and you can offer help and advice but she has the final say to her health and well being, I'm sure it will be fine whatever you choose to do.
If you do say anything just go gently. Tell her you would hate to upset her but you're wondering if she has ever considered if her daughter has aspergers. Maybe just say I've noticed a few things and from what you tell me there are some signs. Maybe give some examples. If she reacts badly just apologise and assure her your intentions are only good and to help.
Sometimes it can be hard when you are dealing with behaviours to see the whole picture because you are so deep in it. I think if you are very caring and gentle in your approach it might just be very helpful. You sound like a lovely Aunty :)
I wish some one had mention to me earlier that they thought maybe my son would be on the spectrum or something. He was not diagnosed until just before he turned 9. He is high functioning and has very high level of verbal general language. Since diagnosis I have had a few people say oh I always wondered about that or I alway thought there was something different with him. But no one had ever said anything to me. And I just didn't know cause he was my first so I just went with him.