I am 27 have been with my husband for 10 years and have two beautiful children, 7 and 4. When the youngest was 1 I found out I was pregnant again and my husband requested an abortion. I was against the abortion but felt I needed to do it for the family as I was working at the time and we needed the money.
I have suffered for 3 years with guilt, anxiety and depression, I lost my job and cannot work. I have just started seeing a psychiatrist to discuss my issues and this has really helped me. My husband said he would never ask me to go through that again as for about a year we were distant and talking was very hard.
We have just planned some future goals for us in the following years and have now found out I am pregnant again (one of the goals is for me to get fit as I gained a lot of weight while depressed and currently at 130kg). He has asked me to terminate as he could not handle going through all the stress the previous children have caused.
He is someone who I believe should never have had kids, he is fine with them but he finds raising them a waste of his time.
I have no idea what to do, cause myself a few more years of pain so that he can be happy or tell him I am keeping and hope he can be happy one day.
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Only you can decide. I wish I had some words of wisdom but only you know what your family can handle, what you can handle and what effect either way it will have on your family.
You will be ok, you can loose weight while you're pregnant. It's your baby and your choice. Please don't feel pressured into making any choices you don't agree with. I think it's pretty selfish of your partner to ask you to go through that again considering all you have been through.
He will be fine, men don't really bond with the child until theyre born anyway