Have just peed on a stick but I just knew I was pregnant anyway...
Hubby & I both wholeheartedly agree we were completely done with breeding & I really truly don't want any more...
I am not elated, I am shocked!!! Don't know how to feel... Has this happened to anyone else... I know I will get over it & love baby No3 as much as 1 & 2 but... I just need some advice from mummas who have been there... Not ready to confide in my sister or my girlfriends yet, I just want to stew on this for a few days while it sinks in...
Please no comments about contraception... I am completely aware of what a fool I am!
And also no 'you should be grateful, I'de do anything for a baby', I completely get that... I know a baby is an utter blessing!
Thanks so much!
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Hi firstly congratulations! My best friend found herself where you are right now 2 years ago. And yes you will love this bub too. For her her youngest at the time was 9. So she was well and truly done as far as they were concerned. You haven't mentioned the ages of you 2 now. So I can only go off where my friend was at, for the first 3 months or so they were so upset about it, but as they got further into the pregnancy they all started to get very excited. Her 2 eldest are both boys. They accepted the idea of bringing a new bub into the family, and they have been blessed with the most beautiful little girl in the world, she now only 18 months old and is stringing words together for example, Mum, mess, fix. For her family she is the best thing that ever happened to them. Mum this time round was and is so much more relaxed and not nearly as stressed as she was when the boys were babies and she is just letting herself enjoy this little gift.
Again I don't know the ages of your children so can only talk of how it has been very good for my friends family. Enjoy your little bundle of joy. Once you recover from the shock and get your head around it you won't regret it. At all. Good luck Mumma I wish you and your family all the best and as to the new addition to your family you will come to terms in no time. I reckon it'll be about the time you feel that first little kick.
I think a bloody lot of women have found themselves in this situation! It's how I ended up with my one and only :) you make a decision that you are going to make it work and you start to get excited.
You are certainly not the first woman with a surprise pregnancy and you won't be the last! Stop beating yourself up, it's not like you've got 11 kids.
When I was 41 I found out I was pregnant with my third. My older two children were 7 and 8. I couldn't believe it, my husband and I felt like we were just getting our lives back, I was also worried about my age and complications. My baby boy was born just after I turned 42 and he is the most beautiful loving little boy and I can't imagine my life without him. My older two children adore him and having him in our lives has made our family complete. I was so worried about being an older Mum and I felt the same as you. Give yourself time to get over the shock and know you are not alone. Our little boy is a blessing and I can't imagine not having him in our family. Wishing you all the best and congratulations on your pregnancy. Xox
Im 31 and found out I was pregnant with number 5 about a year ago....i was done and freak out. we were both done cause it was number 7 between us. Didn't tell my partner for a week and he knew some thing was up before I told him, though he didn't expect me to tell him I was pregnant. He was fine and kinda excited, He didn't react the way I thought, I was shaking! He was so supportive through the whole pregnancy, it was so much more tiring this time round....it was 5 yrs since my last.
This was me about 3 1/2yrs ago. My first born was 4mths old & I found out I was pregnant again. To be honest, I was absolutely devastated & seriously contemplated the dreaded "A" word. If it wasn't for my fiancé I don't think I would have my amazing "almost" 3yr old daughter now, who is absolutely the light if my life. I didn't enjoy one bit of my pregnancy with her & dreaded all the ultrasounds. We didn't announce my pregnancy until about 20wks (people were asking questions about my belly) & we didn't find out the sex of her until she was born because I just didn't want to know. Even when she was born I was still completely in shock & disbelief, but that soon passed in the following days. All I can say is good luck mumma, I think u will be completely fine even if it takes u a little bit to get used to ☺
I totally understand I cried for the first 6 months I was pregnant although I knew I would be ok once the baby arrived... I let myself be disappointed and deal with the feelings... I now have an amazing 10 year old that transformed my life... I don't have any guilt about how I felt. accept that it wasn't planned and it's ok to feel how you feel...
I was the same with our number two. Who is now 6 1/2 months old. It took a few days to stop beating myself up about how I initially felt.
While I love both my babies unconditionally I do still have a moment now and then when baby is being difficult and think it wasn't meant to be this way, so soon. And then I feel bad for thinking that. (We have a very close age difference).
I know and keep reminding myself that the first year of each child's life is always the most difficult, they're learning and you're learning. Each pregnancy and child is different.
It's hard but I wouldn't change it for anything.
I also got my tubes cut and burnt so no more surprises unless it's by some serious miricle!!
Been there, cried there! In my story, it was quite a challenge for the first year of the 3rd child's life BUT so good since. Actually, I'm so glad about how it worked out. Three kids under three works great when they are in primary school, etc. they are each other's best friends/enemies depending on the moment. Hang in there friend. It might not have been our plan, but that doesn't mean it isn't a good plan.
I was very recently in your position! My husband and I have two beautiful girls together, I have a teenager from a previous relationship and he has two teenagers from a previous (only our two little ones live with us full time though). Anyway, I was completely done having children! We went away at Christmas time and after a few too many wines it resulted in a very unexpected pregnancy. I kept thinking, nooo, not me, I'm 39 and as if it's going to happen once off without protection. How wrong was I! So I am currently fourteen weeks pregnant and although I bawled my eyes out the day I found out, I have come to terms with it and I'm actually quite excited. Congratulations and I hope you are happy with whatever decision you make ;)
P.s. I just gave away ALL of our baby furniture etc to a single mum who is struggling. Oops!