Hi IM!
I think I am suffering from anxiety/maybe depression or something?
I am 27, i have 2 beautiful children and partner. I own my own business with my parents and have done for 6 years. Since having my kids I've only taken 10 days off after the first birth and 14 for the second birth. I'm 20weeks pregnant with number 3 and feeling like Im loosing my mind. I am trying to cut down from fulltime work at the moment and its sooo hard. It's certainly not knock off when the roster says, its work until the work is done. Everytime I'm late home my partner has a go because he needs to ger jobs done on the farm and every time I try to leave early my mum gets pissed off because I haven't pulled my weight. I work 5-6 days a week and I get home late the kids are cranky, I cook tea, bath and put the kids to bed and I'm totally shattered. I am just doing the dishes from last thursday TONIGHT!!! How disgusting of me. I am so ashamed that my house is so messy I dont even want to get up in the morning and see it. Hubby works 1am-9am so he is knackered also, runs our hobby farm and has the kids during the day! I loose my temper all the time and just get so overwhelmed I can't even think straight. I cry on the way to work because I dont want to go and I cry on the way home because I dont want to go home!
I don't even know what I'm asking but has anyone else lost there mind too?
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Time to get to your GP asap. Then you need to talk to your parents about how the business operates. If that means the business hires someone to take some of the workload then that is what a business does. You can't continue to work like this, because you will end up having a breakdown otherwise. If you can't hire someone at the business you need to earn enough to hire someone to do some housework. Unfortunately that idea that we can do it all is pretty much a myth unless you have amazing help.
I found myself in the same position. You know all these people saying you can have it all, be it all. Well I couldn't and can't. I had the same feelings you described. In the end something has to give! And it sounds like you are close to breaking point. Have an honest, upfront chat to hubby. See where things can be changed (a cleaner to help, one of you cutting down or changing jobs) money will not keep you from mentally losing it, sometimes stripping back to the basics brings you back to find yourself! oxox
I would also be having a word to mum about her expectations of you. Yes she is a business partner but she needs to realise your not coping so you can work out a plan.
Oh hunni, you sound burnt out and so does your partner. How on earth does he fit time in to sleep if he is caring for the kids during the day and you are working late. You must be passing ships which would be difficult. I thing some big changes are in order. I'd look at cutting back to 4 days, hire and train someone to help take the load off you. I'm sure your parents would be supportive, as your happiness, children and partner should be your absolute priority.
Can u bring work home with u? Is that an option?
Oh hunni, you sound burnt out and so does your partner. How on earth does he fit time in to sleep if he is caring for the kids during the day and you are working late. You must be passing ships which would be difficult. I thing some big changes are in order. I'd look at cutting back to 4 days, hire and train someone to help take the load off you. I'm sure your parents would be supportive, as your happiness, children and partner should be your absolute priority.
Can u bring work home with u? Is that an option?