Hi ladies,
I don't even know what I am asking, I guess I just need to write down what is going through my head at the moment.
So I recently moved from Queensland to Victoria with my husband to be with his kids, who have also moved to Victoria. A week after we moved down I found out I was pregnant, then got the flu and I just haven't settled in down here at all. I don't think it helps I hate my job. I would do anything to move back to Queensland to be with my family and friends. I thought of running away but that sloves nothing. I really want to go home and I can't accept that Victoria is my new home. I have no family down here apart from my step kids and hubby. I also have no friends down here and find it very hard to make friends. I feel so lost at the moment and will cry at the drop of a hat. I am blaming the hormones for the crying. I guess i just want to hear from people who have moved to another state, how did manage to settle in?
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:( I'm sorry. I moved from Vic to NSW 6 months ago with my husband and daughter, we moved for a change. it hasn't been easy and like you I found out I was pregnant early on and I to dislike my job (which really doesn't help as we can not leave easily) I have a large social media presence as this is the only thing I feel in control with. I think for me, I met people through my daughter so once you have your baby make sure you get involved in the local mothers groups through your maternal health nurse, make sure you go to story time at your local library and sign your baby up to swimming or gymbaroo or whatever is available. My best piece of advice is go and find your local coffee shop, even if its totally crap, go there on a regular basis you may meet people or get along well with the barista or you may not but it does give you a sense of belonging like you have a right to be there as this is YOUR local coffee shop. I always take a magazine or read a book on my phone and I find it really calming. You can do it, it does get better as each month goes by.
You've had a lot on your plate and I can completely understand how you must be feeling, being (unexpectedly, or at least suddenly) pregnant, pretty sick and in a brand new place all at once!
My hubby and I have moved states twice in the 10 years we've been together - from our home state of Tassie to Queensland, just the two of us, then from Queensland to Victoria when our daughter was 6 months old. In both cases I've made friends by having work or just going out and being around other people. Maybe go and volunteer somewhere if your job sucks? Start talking to people. Join a mums group once bubby is born. Go on the BubHub and see if you can find others who are due in the same month as you, you might find people locally too.
Where in Vic are you?
Hi IM, I know exactly how you feel ? we moved back to vic in late December (for hubby's work) after being away for a very long time. We've lived in Sydney twice for about 4 years each, & Townsville, Brisbarne ect. I had nobody! It was absolutely horrible. I have 3 young kids & a hubby. If you'd like to chat please find me on Facebook & send me a friend request! I'm finding it mega hard being back 'home' after all these years away. I thought I'd just fall back in with my old friends but that hasn't ha at all, it's so depressing ?
It takes a long time, at least 12 months to settle in.
Got involved with local groups it took a while though we were drifting for most of the first two years just dealing with crisis after crisis. It takes time to put your feet down and get to know a place. Where in vic did you land? I'm in gippsland
Know how you feel i moved away from family and friends just over 2 years ago and hate every second of it. Iv just decided to move back home without him. Good luck to you hope it all works out
Give yourself time to settle in , we moved to Queensland for 12 months work and by the 10 th month I finally found my feet , made some friends and then we moved home again :(
If your in Geelong, we should catch up
Hello. i feel you. My husband and i have recently moved to Ballarat from Nth QLD and i am also struggling. i am very close to my family (who are all in N QLD) and find making friends difficult. I dont have any children (does a fur baby count ?!?) but if your around Ballarat maybe we could meet.