I just need to know im not alone. Are all weddigs stressful leading upto. We have been lucky to have the help of family, but now I feel it is more stressful having them involved than not. I know I sound like a brat but I didnt want all this I wanted to run away with my husband, but we stuck around to keep the familys best intrests at heart and it is just killing me, the finances are the biggest issue. A weddingwe didnt want bcoz we couldnt afford, pushed into it and told repeatedly not to stress about money and now im sitting in bed crying my eyes out bcoz the financial burden and stress and final payments that the family said they had covered but now are expecting us to cover instead, even tho it wasnt what was planned. I wouldnt mind but its what we budgetted and we just dont have the money. Im not asking advice, whats done is done. Just tell me they arent all those picture perfect magazine weddings. The most important day of my life, I have thought about my whole life, I didnt want it tarnished by all this. This is why I always wanted to elope. Now how do I keep my day as special as i always dreamed it would b knowing I was this upset before hand? I just love my husband to be so much, I hate how tarnished this has all become.
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I know you didn't want advice but have it out with them! You don't sound like a brat - this is completely unfair. It's not like you planned all of this and then expected them to cover the cost, THEY TOLD YOU THE COST WAS COVERED. You were pushed into this even though it wasn't what it wanted. Have a meltdown if you have to. OR, depending on how far out you actually are: cancel everything and elope!
Yes, there are always stresses leading up to the wedding, but they're normally smaller ones like "Will the cars be there on time" or "the caterer can't get enough chicken so we'll have to add steak to the menu".
My mum is so going to think I wrote this when it reaches Facebook.
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We compromised because it wasn't worth the arguing or hurt feelings. We are exchanging our rings in private, just us and our child. Then we're having a party afterwards with everyone invited.
Lots of hugs, IM! It really is difficult when 'your' day ends up being about pleasing everyone else.
Just remember - the day is about celebrating the love you and your husband have for each other. It doesn't matter where you are, or who you're with. In the end, it's just you and your husband taking another step in your wonderful journey together. The rest won't matter x
Good luck!