Please no judgement
I was raped when I was 16 (naturally I didn't cope very well because it was all 'my fault' or people, including my family didn't believe me) and as a result ended up in a DV relationship for almost 6 years (just about everything you can think of, happened - he even had someone spike my drink so someone else could rape me as he watched)
Eventually, I moved interstate so he couldn't be near me (he would never leave Victoria, holiday or otherwise, so I knew I'd be safe) and have been had an amazing time and have been married last year.
But now I'm again struggling. I work 60 hours a fortnight, shift work and study full time. My husband also has major depression so he expects me to keep house clean and tidy while all this rages on in my head. I try to talk about him helping me out around the house (which he agreed to before I started studying but he doesn't do) and every time I talk about my feelings of my past me acknowledges them but almost fobs me off like everyone else I tell.
I don't feel like I could burden someone with all my problems and feelings of worthlessness
My GP has referred me to a specialist but he is $450 per appointment and can't afford to go as often as I need but always have the feeling he doesn't actually care - he just wants my money.
I don't know what to do.
spinning out of control
spinning out of control
Posted in:
Mental Health, Health & Wellbeing
4 Replies
CASA is free and you don't need a referral from your GP and there is no limits on visits just a wait list.
which state are you in so that I can let you know which is the appropriate service in your area?
I'm in Brisbane Queensland:)
http://www.brissc.org.au/
Go back to your GP and tell them. There are other medical options. Yes sometimes we have to find a specialist that works for us. Also discuss with your GP and knew specialist if you need a mental health team, for example my son sees a neuro-psychiatrist for medication but a psychologist or a counsellor for talk therapy and practical therapy. I'm not saying you need a team but sometimes it takes some time to find your people. Also find out if there is a public option and how long the wait is or if you are entitled to free appointments on a mental health care plan.
Now I know you shouldn't have to cut back on study but with you and your husband suffering mental illness it's probably unrealistic to be studying full time (while working almost full time). So I would seriously consider cutting back your study hours to a manageable amount. Sometimes we just have to be realistic about what is doable..
Id probably be reassessing my relationship with my husband too. Depression never made me put unrealistic demands on my partner regarding anything. So be careful you are not making excuses for his behaviour.