Single mums come in many shapes and forms,this is a life style that we did not choose,but one we have to accept and adapt to,I am a full time casual,so I may work 25-32 hours a week,most weeks i work 12-13 days in a row (normally days) I will take any shift that I am asked too or I can pick up- may be 38-40 with one or two days off in between, lately we have had a few staff issues so I have been working more nights than days,I have 21 year old son who minds my other two children when I work nights,my youngest is 8,thier dad has them every second weekend, last weekend they where due home at 5pm,I was asked if I could stay to close 10pm,I rang him and let him know,he really didn't care so I rang his mother ( the children's grandparents to see if they could sleep over,he was busy with so his dad was bringing them home. they were lovely they spent the night and they took the kids to school the next day :) my kids have since told me that dad said I need to get my priorities straight and not rely on his parents to help me out,that I am neglecting them by not spending time with them and choosing work over them,our children are well behaved,we'll feed and well dressed,my parents have passed away,so they are the only people I can ask for help if needed,I know I am a good mum,it just hurts that nothing I do is good enough :)
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Ignore him, you are working and setting an example to your children. It's not as if you are out with friends drinking, you were working and providing for your family. I'm sure your kids love spending time with their grandparents and if they don't mind helping than ignore him.
Being a mum and providing for them is hard work. I agree - ignore him totally as he has just found a sore spot. Love doesn't bring home the bill money. I am a single, full time, working mum myself and I feel guilty at times for not being around for my daughter but it's how it is... Just let it go babe and know that you are doing what's best for your family at the moment. :-)