Hi IM's
I was just wondering if I could get some advice. I have two wonderful children aged 6 years and 2 years old. My eldest has a different father and has some anxiety issues we are working with. She is quite the sensitive soul and I know that her unsettled life prior to me settling down with my husband has a lot to do with that. I separated from her father when she was young and took me a while to find my place in the world. I would party a lot when she was at her fathers and really didn't know where I was going. It wasn't until I decided to study (early childhood) that life really settled and we welcomed her step father into our lives. She is a wonderful girl and kind and caring, she's very affectionate and love her cuddles.
Our son is 2 and very settled happy little man. However he is pretty busy like most boys i know. He loved rough and tumble and has be lucky to have his dad around a lot and a settled stable home with secure attachments.
My problem is my children are like chalk and cheese. And they fight ALL DAY! it drives me crazy and i feel like it is always my daughter who gets into trouble because she knows better.. or should walk away. We are trying to teach mr 2 to play nicer with her and began a time out for him when he gets too rough with her, which is kind of working. But my daughter throws the most epic tantrums when we pull her up for her behaviour too. I feel like they will never get along. These school holidays she has been so happy to not have her brother home (he's still at daycare of holiday break). She starts acting up when we have to go and pick him up...
How do I handle this better? Will they ever get along? Any advice would be just wonderful right now.
Thanks ladies
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Maybe, it's very normal. I think it's a good idea they both get special time with mum without the other and that your daughter doesn't have to have her brother following behind her when she does everything. Make sure that your teach her to say she wants some time alone and that her brother is removed from the situation as soon as she says that. Most 6 year olds don't want a two year old grabbing at there toys etc all the time ( I'm just guessing that happens from experience)