I've been separated for two years and after much despair and bitterness and loneliness, I finally decided before Christmas to enter myself back into the land of the living and signed up to online dating...it has been an interesting and confrontational journey, where I have felt more dismay and hopelessness. However, things looked up a week before Christmas where I met, online first, then in person, a wonderful man. We talked and talked and met twice before he went on a planned holiday over January. We caught up when he came back and met up again on the weekend. However, something is not right or did not feel right - he is very reticent to tell me his surname, or anything else personal whereas demanding that information from me. I tried to call him but got his voicemail and hence found out his surname and looked him up... I found photos of him with his partner and small a baby posted about 5 months ago...at first I was devastated now I am angry at him for doing this to his partner and want to tell her. However, I don't want to ruin her life with this news. I have not confronted him about it because it will look like I have been stalking him.. What should I do?
Should I tell his wife I met her partner on a internet dating site?
Should I tell his wife I met her partner on a internet dating site?
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Confront him! Who cares what he thinks. I used to believe that it was the right thing to tell the wife, but I've changed my mind and believe if I know the wife I would tell otherwise it's none of my business. Also if he has time to date it's likely she already knows :(
Yes, I thought that if I knew the wife, I would tell her but I don't so it is none of my business...otherwise, I should not care what he thinks! Thanks for the advice.
Confront him and then say goodbye!!
Yes, I think I will! Thanks for the advice. I knew it myself but wanted to know what others thought. Thanks again.
As someone who has been the wife in this situation, i would want to know.
I was in this exact situation many years ago and I told his wife. Not only did she not hate me but she was beyond grateful. She said she had suspected something for awhile but didn't have any proof and felt she was going crazy. I literally saved her years of wasted time in a marriage with a cheating scumbag.