I will try to keep this as short as I can.
I'm 34 weeks pregnant expecting our first. My husband and I have been together 7 years. The whole time we have been together he has been a casual weed smoker although in the past year it has gradually become a regular occurrence. I have asked him to stop especially with a baby on the way but he finds this controlling and has outbursts in which he says very hurtful things to me.
I haven't had the easiest pregnancy and he has helped me out a lot but it was on the condition he could smoke. I feel like he is black mailing me into letting him smoke in return for the housework done because I can't do it. When I say no that's when he turns nasty and says I'm a fat ugly c&$t, worst thing I ever did was get me pregnant, he will never have another baby...well at least not with me, he should of left me a long time ago and he hopes I die in childbirth etc etc. This past year since I've been pregnant things are getting worse. I have even snapped and got quite physical with him which I regret. This is all made worse by the fact my friends and family live so far away and I feel isolated and alone. I feel like whenever he has these outburst I can't leave due to work and I have no where to go and he knows that.
I just don't know what do anymore. I'm at breaking point and I feel like all this stress and being so upset is not good for the baby. Should I leave now and go back to my family or hope that once the bub is here things might change?
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if you are asking the question i suspect you already know the answer its just difficult to make that break. Leave darl you deserve so much more and so does your bubba
Go home to your family...
Call his bluff. Leave to go home to your family since he wishes he wasn't with you apparently, I can think of plenty less than complimentary names for him. You deserve better.
This was my life up until a month ago! Same smut site and all, only my DD was 10 weeks old at the time and 6 weeks early (now 2yo). Found dirty messages from countless women. It is the hardest thing to leave but please don't let a man make you feel that way :-( don't give anyone that power to destroy your self worth... I did for years and ended up actually hating myself for letting him do that to me... 1 month in and I have already begun to find myself again and I'm realising daily just how much more I deserve... :-) If only we could see ourselves from our parents eyes... best of luck!
Leave now. He hopes you die in child birth?! What a sorry excuse for a man. Call your mum, ask for help with the fare to get home. Contact Centre link and see what you're entitled to and ask about child support payments.
Get a seperate bank account. Don't wait, he isn't going to change. He is abusing you.
Do you want your baby around pot and that sort of behaviour? What would you say to your daughter if she was in this relationship? You have your answer xx
Oh no, you go now. Unfortunately you have been impregnated by a giant bully of a child who never grew out of the tantrum and manipulation stage.