My 7 year old has never had a real hair cut in her life. Every school holidays she has her hair trimmed and neatened. It is washed 3 - 4 times a week, brushed twice a day and very well cared for.
It now falls to just at the top of her bottom and for a long time has been something she has been incredibly proud of.
She has intermittently asked to have her hair cut previously, but once she realised how much hair would be cut off, she changed her mind.
Over the past few weeks, she has been quite adamant that she wants her hair cut up to her shoulders.
I have kept telling her not to cut it yet, just to wait and see. I am genuinely very concerned that if she cuts it, she will regret it, especially as it will take so long to grow back, and both her sisters also have very long hair.
At her request 6 months ago I let her get a fringe cut in, and half the time she hates it, half the time she loves it.
Now I don't know what to do... I don't know if I should let her cut her hair or not. Should I let her cut it and just learn a life lesson if she hates it, or should I persevere with telling her not to cut it yet and wait until she's older and better able to think about the ramifications of her choices?
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My daughter is six and trying to grow her hair to her bottom it's currently about half way down her back she sometimes askes to have it cut I usually compromise with her and get a few inches cut off she's usually happy with that. Why not have a few inches taken off then see how she handles that. I once had hair past my bottom and got it cut off to my shoulders in one foul swoop I regretted it for months after.
Let her cut her hair, it's just hair and a safe way to experiment. It does grow back eventually and if she doesn't like it it's one if life's lessons. She isn't asking for a perm or colour or anything outrageous :)
My daughter had longish hair (nowhere near her bottom - probably half way down her back), and kept asking for a hair cut. I kept trying to talk her out of it. She took matters into her own hands and gave herself a hair cut (she was 8). It ended up quite a nice bob just below her shoulders, long enough for a pony tail, but she is able to take care of it reasonably well by herself. Both of us are really happy with it.
Okay from personal experience I say let her cut it now while she is young. I had long Blonde hair when I was young down past my bum, my father wouldn't let me cut it. It was so heavy and hard to wash. I did love it but in high school I started getting teased saying it was horse hair etc. so I hated it and hounded my dad to let me chop it, he eventually gave up caring about my hair when I was about 16 & I went crazy with it I went through years of experimenting with it and now I want my old long hair back.
So I think if I was aloud to cut it when I wanted, when I was young then I woulda realised how wonderful it was long and that it's actually a good thing to have long hair and I woulda grown it back again.
Now it's ruined from dye and is above my shoulders :(
I would let her cut her hair. I cut my hair when I was younger and in hindsight it was horrible but at that time I loved the feeling of having short hair. It's only hair and children need to learn that there are consequences for their actions.
Perhaps you could make a life lesson from it. Sit her down and come up with a list about the pros and cons of cutting her hair. Make it fun by using lots of art and drawing pictures. At least you'll be teaching her to consider all arguments and she knows that her decisions and subsequently actions have consequences.
My dad never let me cut my hair, it was beautiful, past my bottom, blonde, straight.
The photos I see I can understand why, but my memory is hours of brushing, sitting on it, kids using my plaits used as horse reins ect...
When I got to year 10, mum let me cut it, I cut it in a bob and dyed it this hideous blonde/brown colour. Dad wouldn't talk to me.
I think if it wasn't a big deal I probably wouldn't has made such a big deal, it's only hair, it will grow.
Hahaha our dad's sound the same I posted the comment about my dad not letting me cut mine. Wish I had of taken his advice & kept my beautiful hair. But your right it does grow back... :D
Very similar!
I still do extremes. My husband is used to coming home and seeing a completely different hair colour/style.
It was funny when my hair was near black and a lady said to me " where does you draughter her pale blonde hair from"
Let her cut it. Hair grows back. She is a 7 and having hair that long is a huge undertaking, can get in the way a lot and is also very heavy. People have good hair days and bad hair days, she will love her new hair and then hate her new hair, thats normal. If it's something she wants to do and she is being adamant about it then let it happen. If you wait until she is older then you are opening the way to her just resenting you and wanting to do crazy things with it as soon as she is able.