Hi IMs :) I do not know how to approach this situation, please I need your opinions! My daughter is 6yo, she is in year 1. She is an amazing kid, excellent student and an even better classmate, kind to everyone and very sensible about school rules. She loves going to school and she is a happy girl. About two weeks ago, she told me that one of her friends (a boy) asked her to be his girlfriend. I found it rather cute, and i asked her how she felt about it, she said " a bit embarrased " but we didnt give it a second thought. Last week she said to me that this boy suddenly and unexpectedly kissed her on the hair, and she asked him why, to which he replied "because I love you". He got told off by one of the teachers for kissing her. And yesterday she told me that this boy keeps touching her (pats on the shoulder, hands, hair) and some of the other boys laugh at it while he does it. She feels uncomfortable and disrupted (according to her he does it all the time) I've said to her that she shouldnt tolerate any behaviour that makes her feel uncomfortable, and she said that she keeps telling him to stop and he doesnt listen. I really dont know what to do. I dont know if this boy has a crush on her or he is doing it for the other boys to have a laugh at her expenses. Should I talk to the teacher? Leave my daughter to handle it? Is it something I should be worried about or just accept that they are a bunch of 6 yo kids just being silly? Please I need an unbiased point of view! Thanks in advance to the beautiful sisterhood :)
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My daughter his also 6 and we had a similar situation last year with a boy continuously touching her bottom, on the outside of her clothes thank goodness. I spoke to her teacher because it made my daughter feel so uncomfortable that she didn't want to go to school. The teacher monitored him as much as possible but he still was doing it in the end I told her to say really loudly to stop touching me. It worked very well, and by the chance another teacher was close by they would sort it out. I also requested they wouldn't be in the same class for this year and it has done wonders and created alittle
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It's quite normal behaviour at this age and part of learning what is appropriate and not appropriate. I would discuss it with the teacher in a nice understanding but it's upsetting my daughter way.
It's not sexual behaviour but it is unwanted attention and boundary pushing. I would address the teacher and request that they inform the boys parents and ask them to help him stop doing this unwanted behaviour. I would keep it low key as, again, this isnt suggestive or sexual behaviour just unwanted attention.
I hope it works out well and the children and teachers involved work this out sensibly and well.
Not to jump to conclusions but this is my story from year 2/3. We used to wait in the classroom after the bell for end of morning tea/lunch. And bunch of boys used to pin us down and pull our nickers off and touch us despite us trying to fight them off. My mum and teachers didn't listen and it took ages to get our rules changed so we had to wait outside. This destroyed my relationship with my mum and I have never gone to her with my problems since. I would hate something like this to happen to anyone else. Not saying that this will happen to your little girl but go and talk to the teacher. And principal if needed. Hopefully it is as innocent as he likes her and not realizing how uncomfortable he is making her feel. Good luck