Hello everybody,
I have a question about a Friend of mine. To be honest I can't tell if she is hurting in some way or if she is a manipulator! I have found out a few horrible things she has done to people! She hasn't told me about these things until recently when I asked her about them! I didn't know what to say, so I said nothing and just sat there with my mouth open! These things include telling her ex boyfriend she was pregnant and needed an abortion, when in fact she just wanted to buy a new dress for her birthday party (she made him fork out the cash) she slept with her married boss, she slept with a guy who has just brought a house with his fiance, and got pregnant to him and had an abortion! Oh and she knows his partner very well, her reasoning behind all of this is 'I don't care, I'm not the one in a relationship' now... I'm married, with children and I find this morally wrong! But the question isn't about that! It's more about if this is a deeper problem and I need to help her in someway!? Or is this just a nasty person, who doesn't really care about other peoples feelings and relationships? How do I tell?
Is she mentally unstable or a total bitch?
Is she mentally unstable or a total bitch?
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it could be either and you can't tell....well you can......does she have periods of incredible activity promiscuous risky behaviour etc and then shut herself away for a month or two?
if it isn't episodic it is most likely a personality disorder in which case no medication will treat it and treatment will take literally YEARS.....stay clear direct her towards help and really you can't do much for her and you will need to make sure you protect yourself from her manipulations because if she does it to them she does it to everyone.
it could also be PTSD or CPTSD....but again you can't do anything about it and she wont until it entirely blows up in her face or collapses on her.
they do all appear to be manipulative self destructive bitches but an incredibly large percentage have untreated PTSD and were sexually abused as children......
iv even contemplated spreading that viral like a rumour it may get more of them into therapy before they reach boiling point but ye id put money on them being a victim.
PTSD ? Ahh? Manifestation of symptoms like the op mentioned are not really consistent with trauma sufferers.
I'd say she's just a nasty b&"@h
I think you are trying to find a distinction without a difference. It all amounts to the same thing. What matters is a) does she want help, and b) can you remain her friend and put your differences aside if she doesn't want help.
I'd say.low.self esteem mixed with being sexually immature and selfish. She.doesn't.respect other.people's serious relationships and doesn't.respect herself enough to think she deserves one, just takes whatever she can get and she feels good for taking someone.else's because it's one up on her and.she.doesn't have.to.put herself out there.to be rejected for a.relationship because that's.not.on the agenda with taken.guys.
Try to help her grow up or just move on.
Stay away how do u know she hasnt been flirting with ur partner it happened to me my so called friend and ex were doing shots ended up in bed together then i found out she faked being drunk to prove my ex would eventually cheat on me! Total physco
Yup !! Agree !! Been there also !! Then when I cut ties ... She went psycho crazy... All sorts of attacking messages filled my phone, Every single aspect of my life was attacked, all other friendships, my job, my reputation, u name it... She attacked it and tried to ruin it !
Wooohooo RUN !!! Sounds to me like a lovely lil sociopath !! F'n run ... As far and as fast as u can ! Sociopaths cannot be 'cured' or 'treated' and 2 be honest .... They don't have a consiounce and fake any 'relationships & friendships' that they 'appear' to have.... And are outright dangerous.. emotionally, mentally ... They can and will Ruin u. Again ... I say : RUN !!