I find it quite astonishing the frequency with which many readers of the Facebook page expect EVERY ONE except themselves to be 'perfect', your men must be perfect....your children....are perfect or must be......you can be as imperfect as you like....double standards much?
Does anyone know the meaning of the words
Compassion?
Love?
Grace?
The amount of ridicule directed at any IM's who tolerate accept or have even a moments patience for the less than perfect is disgraceful. What kind of a life are you raising your kids to live?
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I'm perfectly imperfect :p
and completely understand what you are saying - social media is rough and there are so many people happy to express their opinion without thinking if it is what is helpful.
I posted about some of the things we do to combat or counter some of an individual's behavioural issues....yes they are an adult....an adult with acute chronic mental illness and severe complex health issues. Some nasty comments were made about him and that they would run away screaming....I am pretty sure even mothers with far more ideal households than mine occasionally run away from home for an afternoon as I do but they said it to be nasty. And it was nothing but pure nastiness.
We are separated because he wanted to learn to handle his health and complications from his mental health issues himself including managing his own money...which isn't working so well but he is trying.....
He even moved out for six months because he knew I had more than enough on my plate just with my kids without him adding to it.....
But reality is he cant live alone his health is critical....he has seizures he goes into hypertensive crisis....he has reactive hypoglycemia...... regardless of the behavioural issues from his mental health which is largely untreated while doctors nut out the rest of it which may well kill him....
There is no supported accomodation available to place him in which can handle his health needs.......who knows maybe they will get a handle on it soon and they can start Nutting out which mood stabilisers are actually safe for him to take alongside the treatments for everything else....
I have a pretty thick hide from dealing with arseholes for most of my life......but not all of those who post here can handle such shallow malicious nastiness many of them are putting themselves out there for help and support and just copping a slap the size of a tidal wave for doing it......the woman whose husband has depression and was checking those sites she kept catching out shortly after he did and doesnt yet have kids. No one besides me could see the truth and the venom from them that poor woman not a boo has been heard from her since!
And there are so many like her...they sometimes get some mindful answers here (not guarenteed) but as soon as it hits facebook (I want to warn them not to look)
I think we need to remember that no matter how matted their fur for whatever reason....each of us has our own circus and these are each our own monkeys......judging each others monkeys is as much a judgement of the IM reading from here we cant know all the various factors going into each situation all we can do is try to do no harm and keep it as constructive and practical as possible without judging her for her monkeys.