Getting babies to sleep. Are people lying?
My second baby is 3 months old and like his sister is a nightmare to get to sleep. It can take 4 hours a night. I feel like everyone around me has babies they just put in the cot and baby goes to sleep. Are they lying?.Do babies actually do that? Or have they been sleep trained and they don't want to admit it? I'm not ok with letting my baby cry to sleep. Is there another way?
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Some babies do do that! Not all babies do it though and not all babies do it through sleep training. I found my son fell asleep best in a stroller being pushed around or being in a cot being patted. Later on he became one of those just fall asleep babies. He was never left to cry although I don't have a problem with people letting there child cry a bit mine just didn't cry.
PS sleep training doesn't have to involve letting a baby cry it out.
Everyone says that but my baby cries as soon as in cot. Have been to sleep school where they claimed it was not controlled crying but really it was, they just gave it a different name
sneaky! Does your baby spend any time in the cot apart from bed time. Some bubs need to practice being put down but playing so they don't associate it with sleep
I had twin boys and they didn't go to sleep just by putting them in their cots. I ended up patting them to sleep (which was hard with two) and just was consistent each night with the routine and time they went to bed etc. what I did over time was reduced the amount of time I patted them to sleep and would eventually get to the point where I patted until they were almost asleep. One boy by 6 months would go to sleep on his own when I put him down in his cot and the other took till around 12 months when the baby nurse I saw told me to put him in and leave him. Two nights of screaming for 10-15 mins for me to come and get him, he now sleeps perfectly.
My first baby was a nightmare to get to sleep of she didn't feed to sleep. My 2nd and 3rd kids would just fall asleep wherever, in the pram, their cot, even on the floor when their older siblings were running around.
I put it down to how stressed and anxious I was. With my 2nd and 3rd babies I was much more relaxed, I couldn't jump to their every whim when they wanted something, they learnt to just fall asleep on their own as I had other children to deal with. I'm a big believer in not pushing older children aside because the baby needs me. Yes the baby needs to be fed/changed ect but my other children need to be fed ect so if I was in the middle of making lunch well the baby had to wait. It wasn't like I left the baby's for long periods just 5 mins or so.
Also nothing wrong with feeding to sleep if that works then do it, it won't cause bad habits.