Would it be wrong to seek counseling for myself and not tell my husband.
long story short i was in an abusive relationship for many years before i met my husband and have 1 child from that relationship, and since i have always struggled with jealousy issues towards my husband (of him with other women) and he has been VERY understanding (even talking to me about him adding women on fb before he does so ect).
my husband is a fabulous man and would never cheat but i am over getting a sick in the pit of my stomach feeling every time he even mentions another woman (works in a workplace with other women as well), and as this is emotional baggage i have left over from my serial cheating ex (and not to worry my husband) i was wanting to seek counseling so i can get it in check, but wonder if its a bad move to make
any advice ladies?
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Why do you feel the need not to tell him you are seeking counselling? I think it's a perfectly good reason to seek help, I too have crazy jealousy issues from my ex husband cheating on me, I can not trust men yet but I am seeing my psychologist and have made huge steps in regaining my self confidence and trust. If you don't feel like you can tell your husband then I guess you have more issues then you have written? But go ahead anyway and congrats on recognising you're issues.
I'm not sure why you can't tell hubby you are going to counselling. You don't have to give him the details you just say something vague. It's not like he wouldn't know that you have jealousy issues. I'm sure he would be really happy that you are getting some help for that. There is no reason why you'd have to tell him everything that happens in sessions.
However if having to tell hubby would stop you going to counselling I think it is more important to go to counselling and worry about telling later.
If the point of cheating involves keeping secrets and doing things behind ones back...why would you not tell your husband..... isn't that like keeping secrets? I wish women would realize that everyone at some point has been cheated on .... or has cheated.... and they have survived. I just don't understand women allowing the cheating partner to control their lives even AFTER it's over. You should obviously tell your spouse....it's his life to enjoy... it's your life to take your power back. The past is the past and only you can ruin your future... Every second wasted on jealousy is a second you never get back.... make your seconds with him be the best.