Hi I have a bit of a unusual situation around the end of last year all of a sudden I started to get anxious about going to bed it got worse at the start of the year I would go to bed and lay there for hr I would freak out over every sound it got worse when my son started school because my husband started to come to bed at the same time as me and he is can't hear in one ear and never wake up to th kids my house is fearlysafe surcurtiy scream not ground level and we lock our screen door and all that but I freak out all the time I'm currently pregnant and it was getting better have the radio on at night I was doing fine until about a week ago now I hear a strange sound even hour before I go to bed and I'm jump all night I talk to my dr he think it's from stress but I don't no how to help deal with it like tip from night time ect if u can help me I would really be greatful
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That's horrible and good on you for seeming help. Why live in fear unnesseccarily. Did your dr suggest some kind of counselling? Some techniques like from Cognitive Behavioyral Therapy can help you challenge your thoughts so you learn not to let them get out of control. Eventually you learn to cut them off at the first thought. There are CBT books if you don't want to go to a counsellor. I think understanding the facts and figures on things like break ins, murders etc help me as I relate to percentages/chances of something happening. Also avoid cop shows etc as they just frighten people!
I have tryed counserling it doesnt seem to help but I am see my dr again soon so I can ask him about trying something else
Ordinary counselling probably isn't helpful if it doesn't teach you methods to change your thought patterns. I personally didn't get much out of straight counselling either.
Thank you I will deffently talk to my dr there must be something else he can help me try
I have had the same issues with trying to get to sleep. My partner works away so I'm home alone a lot, sometimes I would sleep on the couch and have the tv on for noise made me feel safer. But now I have started listening to meditation music and used breathing techniques which has helped. It took a few nights to get used to but now it's great I feel much more relaxed and have been getting the best nights sleep in ages. Talking to a psychologist will also help, they will try to pin point the cause and help with ways to overcome it as well as providing techniques to prevent it so it doesn't ever get severe again.
Hi there dear IM! Anxiety is such a tricky thing to deal with, I've been going to a phsycholigist for a few months now who has been helping me retrain my brain to react differently in stressful/ anxious situations, he has been giving me a series of "recordings" to listen to as I go to bed, the idea is it teaches you to breathe and bring yourself down from the anxious feelings (shaking/racing heart/sweating) and as you do this I usually fall asleep listening the them, perhaps something like this might be useful, worth asking, we are trying to deal with my anxiety without medicating and this seems to be working at the moment, but don't be afraid if they suggest an anti anxiety med, being mum and being protector is huge, specially those feelings seem to amplify when you're pregnant... Be kind to yourself, you're not alone but also seek the help you need to work through it, you've got a busy time ahead with bub - good luck and I hope you manage to get the help soon - hugs xo