Hi all, I have a friend that seems to be doing a lot of things that I would have avoided during pregnancy and I'm at a loss about weather to put in my 2 cents or just let it go. She is still drinking alcohol, quite a bit of coffee and hasn't changed her eating habits at all to eat safe foods (to be honest I was careful but still ate things I shouldn't have). the latest has been that she went to the hot pools and went down the hydroslides, ignoring the signs at the pools and going on them anyway. She is 30 weeks pregnant. I get the feeling that she doesn't quite get what is coming (when the baby arrives) as she lives in a barn which has no insulation and during winter the temperature drops to 5 degrees inside. she isn't poor, she has a full time job and her husband earns a good wage. they are both educated but are very free spirits. she is my best friend and I love her but I'm beggining to worry about this unborn child... whats your 2 cents? am I just being a worry wart?
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I think you have to let this one go. She wouldn't care anyway. I personally would be screaming inside, but she knows, she just thinks the rules don't apply to her!
Apart from making the occasional comment such as "err should you really be drinking?"..."I thought this slide isn't meant for pregnant women". There is nothing you can do! Nothing you can say, I assume she already knows the risks involved. I have heard that drinking later in pregnancy is actually better then drinking early in pregnancy as the brain develops first few weeks or something thats when FAS risks are involved? I mean I don't know how factual that is lol Anyway the baby might turn out completely fine which usually is the case and if not I'm sure she'll have to live with the guilt, and i'm sure the damage is done. ):
Maybe just little hints here and there, or get a few statistics and facts under your belt without sounding too bitchy! Don't want to lose a friendship
I don't think it's any of your business. I didn't do any of those things in my pregnancy but had a friend who drunk and had those foods they recommend not to eat and had her reasons for it. I appreciate your concern but at the end of the day if you start voicing your concerns regarding this (think from her perspective) what else will you want to voice your concerns over. Her and her husband obviously are ok with this
If it's just a drink or 2 then let it go, past generations didn't have any of these 'rules' and we all turned out fine! It's not ideal but she has made these choices. Pick your battles and just mention the things that really matter in a nice way