My MIL has anger management issues and often says hateful nasty things.
Recently she screamed a string of nasty things to my husband (while I was present) including that she does not like me. This was not the worst thing she said. We are hurt and tired of the constant abuse.
My husband hasn't spoken to them since and is very upset at his mothers continuing bad behavior. While he is angry now, I think with time he would like a relationship with his parents and I will support him in this.
Any advice on how we move forward. She is unlikely to change. I don't want my husband to miss out on his parents but I also struggle at the idea of having to see them knowing they don't like me.
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I think you need to decide in your heads that she is mentally unwell (and probably is) and that it's not about you in order to continue a relationship. However i don't think anyone would blame you or your husband if you cut all ties. You don't say if you have kids or not. Your number one priority should be to protect them and if that means they never see there grandma that's ok. Kids should not have to deal with that at all.
We have young children, who have unfortunately witnessed or been the subject of a number of her tantrums.
We agree that she needs mental health help but she refuses to go.