Well I am glad my son was back with me by the time my question made it to facebook, because even though I found comfort in the mums who understood what I was asking and were offering up ideas, the mums who decided to ignore my request and make comment about "how do you think the dad feels" and calling me selfish just made me mad and even worse for asking. I KNOW my childs father spends 3 weeks without his child. I KNOW he misses him. I KNOW he is working on dealing with this. And I asked not to mention how he might feel because I KNOW. I was asking how I can deal with not having my son with me. I am obviously not a fan of this arrangement. But it was his fathers choice to move away. Before he did he had our son EVERY WEEKEND. It was a choice he made to move away, and therefore not have his son as much. And obviously I want my son to have the opportunity to be with his dad and build a relationship with him, that's why he goes to his dads. I am very much aware I have to let go, but my question was asking how other mums do this so they dont feel so crappy. And for the most part the responses made me feel like I wasnt alone in feeling this way. And then of course people had to make me feel like sh*t pointing out what I already know and clearly not helping at all. And feeling mad I couldnt just let it go and say nothing. But I definately wont be asking for help again, because the negative comments just made me feel even worse than I already did before asking. So a big thank you to all the mums who offered up helpful advice, and I wish you all the best as you struggle with letting go.
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Oh hun i saw it some people just have to put there two cents in without knowing the whole story! I hsve not had to go thru giving my girl away for over nights yet let along a whole week so i can only imagine how it would feel. I feel like my daughter is my whole life now so have no idea what to do when shes not around... please dont feel like u cant ask for help ur not going to like everyones opinions and to put it blunty some women can just be major assholes!
Please don't let these women stop you from asking for advice, your question said very clearly that you didn't want to hear about how he must feel and they just ignored that, totally rude if you ask me. And I understand you not wanting to hear that, how can that possibly help you deal with how you feel? I also get feeling lost when your kids are gone, 5 years on I still feel the ache and emptyness. Lots of love to you, ignore the haters...karma has a way of teaching people compassion .