What do I do? My husband raped me a couple of nights ago. It was horrible, we have been together for over 10 years, he has never shown any violent behaviour before. I was raped when I was a teenager and he has always been understanding of my boundaries and my need for space etc. I don't understand why he would do this to me. We have a healthy sexual relationship but on that night I wanted to sleep as I hadn't got a lot of sleep in the last couple of nights. He apologised the next day over a text. And then he hasn't spoken about it at all. I told him that he raped me and he said I know and I'm sorry. But that's it. I don't know what I am supposed to do now? The person I trusted most in this world, that I told everything to is now terrifying to me and my heart is in a million pieces.
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I'm so sorry this happened to you. Speak to your GP, get yourself into some counselling. If he has raped you that is never ever acceptable. I think it's time to separate and go somewhere you feel safe, friend or family members home.
I am so sorry this happened to you. My husband did a similar thing last year which brought back an assault from when I was a teenager and I found it it devastating. It really shook my faith in him and I didn't feel safe for a long time which is a horrible feeling. My husband was extremely sorry and I have chosen to move past it. I suggest sitting your husband down and asking him why he chose to do it especially with your past rape because you won't be able to decide whether you can move past it until you know. If you do move on, work out a safe word that he understands means he stops immediately.
Omg I can't believe your husband can rape you. If my husband did, if I actually said no and physically tried to move away and he pinned me down and did it then I would be reporting it and leaving that scum bag. Their is no excuse to rape a women wether it be your wife or what. But if I just said nah don't feel like it and still laid there and let him do it then told him he raped me then that would cause confusion for him. Does he fully understand what he did? Obviously I don't know what your case is and how it all happened but he should have known that you have had a bad experience so he should have been more aware of your feelings.
I'm so very sorry this happened to you, and only you know if you can forgive him, I know I couldn't is always have that worry in the back of my head. Good luck!