My partner and I have been together for 9years, we also have a 4year old. We love each other and have a great sex life. The thing is before I settled down I was what some would call "promiscuous" so I have had a bit of experience in the bedroom..please don't get Me wrong I really do love having sex with my lovley man but sometimes I find him to be a bit vanilla. I am awear that the "passionate" sex sort of subsids after a while.. And we still try to find new ways to please each other all the time but the thing is I really want dirty rough sex like I use to before I met him, I like being controlled in the bedroom as I am so incontroll in every other area of my life. I have tried to explain to him and he is getting better sort of.. But maybe it's because he respects me to much to treat me the way I really want it. How can I breach this subject with him again? How can I get him just to f*ck me?
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I love this question.
I'm going to object to the word promiscuous though and suggest female who enjoyed a number of partners.
I can relate.
Talk dirty to him. Send him nasty text messages that detail what you want him to do. Be explicit.
I hope it works but he may actually be a real gentlemen who can't go there. And all though I love a take charge sex partner, there is a reason they don't make it past sexual partners. I hope your man can learn to 'take you' it's lots of fun :)
You may need to come to a compromise. I know there are certainly things I will not do with my hubby and he accepts that, and the same goes the other way, he will not do a thing or two I would like to try. It's just how it works. We have spoken about it and have taken new things on instead and tried something new. Trying to convince someone to do something they aren't comfortable doing is wrong.
buy the things you would like him to use on you (handcuffs etc), read him a dirty story of submissive behavior and see how he reacts. I think it is OK to be controlling in the bedroom, as long as there are cuddles, kisses and "I love you"'s afterwards. Good luck xx
Find some porn along the lines of what you want and show it to him. Tell him I would like it like that for a bit of fun. Good luck
Find some Porn that shows him how you want to be treated, watch it with him and ask to reenact it?
I wish i even got vanilla. No sex AT ALL since feb 2013!!!!! Uncertain how we're still married tbh ?