Hi ims, I know that this is silly , but I need to know how to get past it, Im a single mum, I work full time, I study , and I have 1 child on the spectrum, another in the process of being diagnosed, throughout all this stress, I am exhausted, I don't have a lot of day to day support, the thing is Im in need of new clothes, new shoes, my hair done, and my own health check ups, but im constanly putting my own needs last, I feel my kids should come first, and I honestly don't feel my needs are a priority, but im looking at my clothes, I constantly look tired and run down. I always look at things but I can never justify them does anybody have any tips on how to get past this...
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Yes!you need to work on your self esteem. Looking good makes you feel good. Wearing old, holey clothes that don't fit makes you feel like crap. Looking after yourself is the Best way to make sure your kids get the best of you.
So turn your thinking around. It's not wrong! It's right! It's important, justify it! Start slowly, maybe with clothes, or hair, or a mani and schedule something in each week just for you!
Buy yourself a magazine, a bottle of wine, a nice scented candles, a nice bubble bath. Small things, I think you'll find yourself being a happier, stronger mum and you might just keep on going. ;)
I think it's just one of those things all mums do. My wardrobe has been in desperate need of an update for years but we never have enough extra money to buy them. Always bills, kids, house get out ahead. I don't have an answer but just know your not alone
It took me awhile to get my head around it.
As far as the health stuff goes, I have to prioritise my health because if I'm not healthy who will look after my son?
As far as clothes, hair, bras etc that was baby steps initially I realised when I walk up to that school gate I didn't want people judging my appearance. I wanted to look like the mum who had it together despite my sons disabilities and being a sole parent. I didn't want my child to have me as a reason he wasn't included in birthday parties.
Eventually I just realised I was damn well worth looking after!