I have a hubby that gets crazy angry and hard to deal with at birthdays / Christmas etc. to add to this he has a pot habit that includes small daily use. He has a family history of depression. When things are good it's great but when he pendulum swings the other way he looses it, at me, the kids whoever is in the way. How do I get him to see this behaviour , all of it is insane, I think he self medicated with the weed, and is all part of the same issue. How do I lead him to medical intervention without unleshing hell?
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It's probably the weed doing it to him. I know a lot of people who after long term use it makes them paranoid and skitz out. If you need to get him to go get his mental health checked remember to do it gently say to him that he has not been acting his usual self and for everyone's benefit its best to get it checked out. Also listen to him and see how he thinks he is acting/feeling is normal to him this will be the best bet to get him some proper help. Don't force the issue because if he has depression and is not ready it will blow up just nice and gently. See if you can get him to keep a diary of his feelings each day (I know men it can be hard) and reread it in two weeks time it might open up his eyes
His behaviour is far from acceptable :(
Maybe try to sit down with him (without the kids present- hard I know) and speak to him about your concerns or if you don't think that will work could you try and write a letter? Sometimes it comes across better if you're able to articulate it in the word form. ? Give it a go! Best of luck.
Big hugs for you... :-(
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I agree with imperfect Mum. I quite often find that a letter works better. When we approach someone to talk about things that have been a problem for sometime we often forget that we have given it a lot of thought but the person we are asking to change quite often has not had time to think and process. That's why I think these types of discussions quite often end in arguments. With a letter you can get everything out, give them time to process and think and then come together to talk things through. Weed these days is not what it was 20 years ago. Even if you can get him to only smoke bush grown pot ( hard in the city ) and cut down his usage, it's a start, step in the right direction. I know people who have a everyday pot addiction and the mood swings of some of these people is so hard to live around, the worst part is they don't even see it. I feel for you and wish you the best of luck xo