I am a full time working mum as my partner has been unable to find work. Upon moving to a country town he suggested i start working again after having my last daughter now 2 yrs ago and said he will play the stay at home role.
It is just over a year later and my youngest is now in day care two days a week. I work 40+ hours a week and often come home to my house looking likea tornado has hit and its just getting worse and worse.
I am really not coping with how the house is and trying to juggle work life with family life which has made me feel like i wish i could walk away from it all.
I have asked if he wants me to quit working but he tells me he just needs to pull his finger out and start doing what needs to be done.
I am exhausted trying to do it all on my own and wish my days off could be doing more with my 3 kids rather then catching up house work.
I am also getting up through the night when the kids wake up and just feel disrespected.
Any sugestions on what i can do to make him see that i can't handle living the way we do?
I have tried talking to him and all i seem to get is empty promises.
Please help
Please help
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Counselling have a third party there can actually make a difference I dont know why but it does particularly when you go each week and it's a ok what has changed.....
There may be something else going on such as depression or other but really unless and until he admits it there isnt much you can do in that regard. They are very good at covering it up....except perhaps the fall out from it (the house)
Oh one tip seems the least likely thing to do when you have the shits with someone due to their behaviour but trying to get them out of the house and socialising can sometimes be enough just to jump the needle out of the groove if you know what I mean...
Yes definitely head to counselling, if he won't go to counselling then I'd be considering my options.
I have no problems with guys doing the SAHD thing but it obviously doesn't suit your partner so he needs to get a job!